I'm going to start out by saying I'm a cis, mostly straight, female so i won;t be able to fully understand what being trans* or non-hetero is like but i want to be a better ally and really treat people with the respect they are given.
Now, I being from california, use names like 'dude', 'mam', 'boi', 'bto' etc as gender neutral terms. I've called cis female and cis male and rans male people this casually and they've all been fine. I know that it will be a different case for each person but I wonder what people who don't identify as male feel about people using those terms and what alternatives are. To me it seems like it can cause some dysphoria which i really on't wanna cause.