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Relationships with an eating disorder?

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#1 tmb-broken



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Posted 26 January 2016 - 08:17 PM

I'm 21 and have recently started going out with my new boyfriend. I currently am and always have been absolutely terrified of doing anything physical because I'm so ashamed of my body. I'm hoping someone understands where I'm coming from? Will this feeling go away as I learn to trust the guy more?

#2 Flabtastic



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Posted 26 January 2016 - 08:29 PM

I have this problem every single time I sleep with someone new. I think it's especially normal for people like us who have eating disorders because we are incredibly self-conscious. Luckily, the feeling DOES go away as you learn to trust the guy more. You just have to become comfortable with him, and I'm sure you look better to him than you do to yourself. We are such harsh critics, and it's hard for us to see ourselves in the way in which other people see us. I think you just need to give it time, and you'll be able to relax a little more.

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#3 melancoliquesmoi



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Posted 26 January 2016 - 08:31 PM

I've been there.

This is a very very very common way to feel. Why not express how you're feeling to your s/o and let them know that you are not ready to be physical? You don't necessarily have to tell them the exact reasons why... but just let them know that you aren't ready. 

There is absolutely no reason to rush into it if it makes you uncomfortable and if your partner cares about you they will respect that. 




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#4 Bananasaurus



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Posted 26 January 2016 - 10:03 PM

I don't know if it ever "totally" goes away, but as time goes on and the relationship progresses, positively of course, you'll learn to ignore it.

#5 teaismybutterbeer



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Posted 13 September 2016 - 01:35 AM

yeah relationships all about support n stuff.. but however diseases scar ur relations :(

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Posted 09 April 2017 - 12:33 PM

Aw I know the feeling - its the worst! I think soon you will start to feel more comfortable as your relationship progresses. Takes things as you go - on your own terms, in your own time! <3

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Posted 09 April 2017 - 01:14 PM

Is my boyfriend cheating on me with the girl that flashed him in rehab 

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