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How old are your kids and do they know about your ED?


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#41 GloriousThorn

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Posted 30 September 2018 - 11:16 PM

I keep many darker parts about myself and my past from my daughter and I would never ever burden her or chance messing her up by sharing my ED with her. She's almost 5 and wants to be just like me. So I never talk about weight or anything around her. I love cooking and we cook and bake together and she eats healthy home cooked foods almost every day. She honestly doesn't even know what the word "fat" means and it isn't in her vocabulary yet, though I'm sure that will change when she starts school next year. She sees me eat because I sit down and eat meals with her, but I just eat very little of what's on my plate. It helps that she's in preschool so she eats lunch there 5x a week and in the mornings I'm just rushing around getting her ready that I drink my coffee and get myself dressed and ready to leave the house while she has breakfast. But back to the post, no... I would never ever tell her about my ED in fear that it might trigger her to develop an ED
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Posted 01 October 2018 - 01:31 AM

Mine are 11 years old and 3 months old. I think the 11 year old has met Ana herself. I’m not sure but she’s rail thin. When she does eat, it’s mostly junk.

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Posted 06 November 2018 - 05:11 AM

Hi, My name is GG..

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I am 27yrs old, wit a 3yr old. I only have one child. He has NO clue I have an eating disorder. He probably wont know for a while, because... That's not is main focus, you know?

I feel bad for having an eating disorder after having a kid... But even when I was pregnant, it consumed me. My son has weird eating habits as is, I mean... my house-hold has weird eating habits.

I hope he doesn't catch on. He's such a lively kid, and I don't want that to change.

 

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Posted 11 November 2018 - 03:15 AM

I have a 2 year old, I think he's too young to understand. I hope I can recover before he's old enough to. I so very badly don't want him to be affected, my own mothers mental health issues had such an impact on me.
He does often offer me his food and say 'mama eat it' and when he eats with his dad he says 'mama eat too please' which kind of breaks my heart a little.
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Posted 25 November 2018 - 09:53 AM

Our baby is 5 months old so nooo he doesn't know.
I plan to try to keep it a secret and let it affect them as little as possible. Hubby still doesn't know, and we have been together for 5+ years. I'm pretty good at making people believe I'm "naturally" underweight.
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Posted 22 March 2019 - 07:45 AM

My 3 year old has no idea and I never plan on telling her as I don’t want her to research and fall into a forum like this and develop it herself. My mum and me both have anorexia. I hope my daughter will not

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Posted 22 March 2019 - 01:40 PM

My daughters are 6 yrs old and 14 months.

 

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Posted 20 April 2019 - 05:59 PM

Mine is 7 and has recently started to notice my strange eating habits. I worry that this may affect him, but I also think he’s too young to actually know what’s going on.
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Posted 02 May 2019 - 06:31 AM

My daughter is 16mos and I will never tell her. I never criticise my appearance in front of her, never say "I look fat", I don't purge, I don't "diet". I just restrict certain foods, and don't restrict them for her (apart from sugary junk foods). I've learnt to keep it in my head. If I don't verbalise to her, she never learns to notice it. Plus we're all small and slim in my family anyway, so it's not noticeable in comparison to my mum or sister (yet).

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Posted 10 May 2020 - 10:45 PM

Mine are 16, 11 and 8..possibly the eldest has a clue. 

 

now 18 13 and 10...dont think any do..



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Posted 15 May 2020 - 08:34 PM

My son is 9, turning 10 this year, and he definitely has always noticed at dinners I always have different foods to him (healthier/low carb options) and there's always less on my plate than his but I spread mine out a lot and take my time to eat it so he doesn't notice as much.

 

He's questioned why I have 'less things' on my plate as well as different things but I tell him he needs more food to grow big and strong and mummy is already done growing so I don't need as much. I know it's shitty but it's the best explanation I can come up with for him. 

 

I'm gutted I've passed down some of my picky eating habits to him but in general he eats a lot more variety than I do and loves his food, junk food especially, which I'm grateful for <3


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Posted 20 June 2020 - 04:45 PM

My son is 9, turning 10 this year, and he definitely has always noticed at dinners I always have different foods to him (healthier/low carb options) and there's always less on my plate than his but I spread mine out a lot and take my time to eat it so he doesn't notice as much.

He's questioned why I have 'less things' on my plate as well as different things but I tell him he needs more food to grow big and strong and mummy is already done growing so I don't need as much. I know it's shitty but it's the best explanation I can come up with for him.

I'm gutted I've passed down some of my picky eating habits to him but in general he eats a lot more variety than I do and loves his food, junk food especially, which I'm grateful for <3


I know this is a month late but I wanted to say that’s not a shitty or even unreasonable thing to say. I mean it’s true, kids need to eat a lot and ideally into your early 20’s, and I know your intake may be less than what it should be to be considered a healthy amount, or maybe it is a perfectly healthy amount but, the point is I think that’s a really smart way to explain why you’re eating less. I hope you and your son are doing good (:
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Posted 24 June 2020 - 02:19 PM

I struggle with telling my older two. I feel like the time hasn’t been right but they could benefit from knowing sometimes.

My son is 14 and he was suspicious when learning about it in school 2 years ago. Now doesn’t ask. I wish I could tell him sometimes just so he could be more compassionate towards how girls feel.

My daughter is 12 and learned about EDs this year in health. She also picked a book for reading class about a 12 year old with bulimia. I don’t know why she picked it. (The unit they were studying was “social issues” and it was on the list.) my friend, who doesn’t know about me or my extensive history, alerted me to it and I read the book in 1 night and told her it’s inappropriate for her to read and emailed the teacher. It was awful! So triggering— basically a “how to” on bulimia. She asks me why my dinners are different or why I don’t eat with them. She always has asked since she was little. She’s a phenomenal athlete, and amazing little girl, and I can’t have what happened to me happen to her. So I’m keeping a careful watch and making sure I don’t ever say that foods are good/bad, never even say the word “fat” or comment in others’ appearances. I pray she’s confident enough not to give a [email protected]$& about weight and food. She has too much to lose. I’d like to share at some point so she doesn’t follow my path.

My youngest son is 10. He is build more stocky than my other two and he notices his belly. He loves food though. He doesn’t notice my habits, he just knows I want our family to eat more healthfully than other moms do.
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Posted 08 July 2020 - 09:50 PM

My daughter is only a year old so she doesn't know yet, but I'm sure she'll figure it out once she's old enough.

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Posted 13 July 2020 - 04:04 AM

An almost 4 year old and a 2 year old. 2 year old is oblivious. 4 year old is starting to tell me I can't eat when I do because I never eat in front of her. She says it's bad for me... 😭😂
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Posted 25 July 2020 - 11:00 AM

Telling them would be the best bet if you decide to go through with recovery. Them knowing the hard time youre going through will keep a good relationship with them and at 15 and 11 they probably already know. Mine developed in highschool at 15 cuz we had a project on it and i became obsessed. They teach these in school they probably already know. They will appreciate your honesty and asking them for help so youll get better.

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Posted 08 August 2020 - 03:21 PM

My son is 14 and he was suspicious when learning about it in school 2 years ago. Now doesn’t ask. I wish I could tell him sometimes just so he could be more compassionate towards how girls feel.

My daughter is 12 and learned about EDs this year in health. She also picked a book for reading class about a 12 year old with bulimia. I don’t know why she picked it. (The unit they were studying was “social issues” and it was on the list.) my friend, who doesn’t know about me or my extensive history, alerted me to it and I read the book in 1 night and told her it’s inappropriate for her to read and emailed the teacher. It was awful! So triggering— basically a “how to” on bulimia. She asks me why my dinners are different or why I don’t eat with them. She always has asked since she was little. She’s a phenomenal athlete, and amazing little girl, and I can’t have what happened to me happen to her. So I’m keeping a careful watch and making sure I don’t ever say that foods are good/bad, never even say the word “fat” or comment in others’ appearances. I pray she’s confident enough not to give a [email protected]$& about weight and food. She has too much to lose. I’d like to share at some point so she doesn’t follow my path.

 

not a parent but if a book like that was on my reading list at school i don't know what kind of damage it would have done. i remember at a camp when i was in my early teens we got a talk from an author who wrote a book about anorexia and i fixated on it. i still have it stashed away in my shelf somewhere.

 

that's the problem with eating disorders- talking about it makes things better, but talking/writing in detail about your symptoms and behaviours will usually make others worse

 

(btw, not it's just how girls feel. i know eds and body image issues are way more common among girls but your son could have a eating disorder in future as well.)


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#58 PrinnyWinnie

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Posted Today, 08:28 AM

I have a 4 year old son and I don’t think he can quite comprehend ‘mommy’s eating habits’. I eat everything that I do eat in front of him and try to make sure that he doesn’t try and not eat, like me. It’s so tough having a little one and this damn disorder. I have a tendency to over exercise too, but I get up early before him to get a workout in. I never say comments about my body or how I’m feeling about it, but sometimes my husband will argue with me about my ed in front of our son, which is super harmful. I don’t want him to ever know what my life is like. I want him to grow up happy, healthy and with a positive body image. Knowing that I could damage any of those for him breaks my heart.


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