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my therapist said, "you need to lose 17 lbs for me to be concerned" when I'm already underweight...?

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#61 Not Today Satan

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Posted 10 April 2018 - 08:21 PM

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Posted 10 April 2018 - 10:31 PM

Seriously CANNOT BELIEVE HE DID THAT?! Like, what type of therapist is this? Mine is damn good with EDs and would never trigger me like that. Good ones are out there. I understand the feels of choosing between no therapist or a bad one. My suggestion is keep him just until you are bumped up on another therapists waiting list, if you hold up long enough healthwise. Best of luck, getting better is hard work.

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Posted 10 April 2018 - 10:48 PM

I got told something simmilar. Not eactly that I needed to drop so low but I did get a "if you come back when you are actually underweight maybe we can offer you proper treatment"

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Posted 10 April 2018 - 10:50 PM

Im so sorry this happened. He definitely invalidated your feelings. No matter their weight, if someone is doing severe restriction it should be concerning. He isn't sensitive about your disorder and you should get a therapist who is. I hate doctors that believe that anorexia doesn't exist if the BMI isn't severely low.

I'm going to validate your feelings right now. Yes, you are underweight. Yes, you have been displaying "true" eating disorder tendencies.


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Posted 11 April 2018 - 03:37 AM

fire him, i had a therapist like this before and he made me so much worse off. he told me that i didn't have a real issue "you'll eat when you get uncomfortable" welli dropped 10lbs and then he regreted saying that for about 10 seconds. I was at a bmi of 13.9

Omg I am so sorry to both OP & u for having to go through that.. I've had my share of therapist (5) and all the good ones tell you that you should feel free to switch therapists even for small differences (not even conflicts or complete assholery like this) because your ability to self determine the course of your treatment is tantamount to better mental health. You just gotta fit with your therapist and their style of care should match your needs. Of course, accessibility is an issue :/ (i no longer see one because of this)

And this might be irrelevant to you, but as a general rule, i do nottttt ever work with male doctors/therapists if I can help it. I do not trust them lmao to help me heal when so much of my mental health (and definitely ED) is because of patriarchy. They take soo much for granted and can be generally fucking clueless much.. (Ex. Had a psych try to force me to report my sexual assault by threatening to put me on 72 hr hold). Anyway, since I've seen only women, I noticed, especially with regard to my mental health care, that I was getting way better treatment. They were just better attuned to my needs.

I really hope you get the care you deserve. Also, I've been at 17 bmi before is fucking hell. I was tiny and very sick, and I had no doubt about either. Which just makes me wonder how fucking clueless your therapists have to be to think 14-17 bmi is not worrisome even when accompanied by the PATIENT expressing that. Total disgrace and incompetence.

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