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#201 isadoralelu


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Posted 09 October 2020 - 10:45 PM

Sometimes, I just want to be able to talk to my friends / family members without sitting at a dining table.

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Posted 10 October 2020 - 12:17 AM

I know - bane of my existence!!
5ft 9" / 175 cm

CBMI : 43 kg / 95 lb - BMI 14.0 (01/10/20)

Highest weight I have been in years. Functioning so much better but struggling somewhat mentally and physically to accept. Learning a lot about why I am like this.

- Re-diagnosed Nov-17 - back in treatment (OP) after more than 20 years.

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#203 Aesthetic Azlin

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Posted 17 October 2020 - 10:04 PM

It's super annoying, but there's ways out of it. For example, I like to say I ate a big meal earlier and am not feeling that hungry, so I'll order a diet soda or just a water instead.


Other excuses:


"I'm cramping pretty bad today, so I'll just have a drink." (If you're a girl or anyone with a uterus)


"I'm feeling a little queasy, I'll just have a soda to settle my stomach."


"I don't have much of an appetite today."

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#204 Hardlicore



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Posted 18 January 2021 - 10:02 AM

It is frustrating :( But I also know once you find the right people who I guess 'fit' better with who you are and what works for you, then there are social activities that don't involve food - like my bf and I go to the beach or shopping and we like never involve food - and this was before covid lol more money for fun stuff

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Posted 18 January 2021 - 02:08 PM

In my culture, food is the one thing that reunites everyone. Food is really so so sacred and although I have an ED, I completely acknowledge the importance of it. Being reunited with loved ones around food that was cooked with love is very beautiful to me, although scary of course for the food part.


Imo, with friends it's different because there's so much you could do that does not involve food. Sure, a lot of the time we go to a restaurant or a bar, but if you live in a big city, there is so much to do and explore outside of the food and drinks spots. 

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Posted 18 January 2021 - 02:26 PM

Most non-ED people don't prefer to go more than maybe 5 hours without eating, so it makes sense for them to fit meals into their social activities. Eating is also "fun" and helps people relax and bond. I personally enjoy social eating in some contexts.

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Posted 20 January 2021 - 02:00 PM

I hate the fact that my family thinks birthdays should be celebrated by a restaurant meal followed by unhealthy food - I’m thinking birthday cake! I mean, it’s my birthday, just let me starve in peace.

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Posted 20 January 2021 - 02:38 PM

i agree but at the same time i literally cannot thing of anything else to do

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Posted 26 July 2021 - 03:45 PM

ig its something that all normal people love. its like what unites them all and *boom* they have smth in common now

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Posted 26 July 2021 - 06:01 PM

Although it's absolutely true, there's not much we can do to change society.
Most of the so-called food that people socialize around is toxic and over processed.
If everyone wants to make food the center piece of their day the least they should do is eat non-animal protein sources.
Always remember MEAT is MURDER!

i know this is two years old but like. no
everyone’s diet is different lol
i think this is the worst website to push such a narrative. u eat ur own way we’ll eat our own way..


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bodies strewn across the dead-end street."



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