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#41 Waterski

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Posted 03 August 2018 - 01:07 AM

Oh my gosh I relate, I literally just made a post about this; didn’t see this one. I have pushed my friends away and hit them with the I’m busy or studying to avoid going out. I make it clear I’ll go out if they want to do anything but eat but of course their fat minds only want to eat. Why can’t we go swimming or for a walk?! I completely understand. Luckily my boyfriend lives three hours away until we’re back for the school year I’m scared he’s going to want to go out to eat a lot

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Posted 26 August 2018 - 03:47 PM

it's so stressful! :(

always get so anxious



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Posted 26 August 2018 - 03:49 PM

I am afraid to try make friends, cus they will probably want to b with someone hu likes going out for breakfast and lunch

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Posted 26 August 2018 - 04:01 PM

Because we have eating disorders and normal people don't lose sleep over this shit. Don't act like it's some noble critique of society to call out social eating culture just cus food makes us scared
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Posted 26 August 2018 - 04:04 PM

Oh, I have tons of excuses that work!

I already ate earlier.
I don't feel like eating.
I'm chewing gum(food will ruin it).
I'm really thirsty right now.
I'm going to save my appetite for later(then get distracted)
I feel queasy, I'll pass.

Put a diet soda in your hand. It'll make you look normal.

Today I ate pickles and mustard. Said the pickles we're good electrolytes for the humidity.

 


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Posted 26 August 2018 - 04:06 PM

Saying you're broke/saving money does the trick quite often for me. My friends are broke too so they get it.

Tomorrow i'm going out for coffee with my friends and boi does that scare me. What if they decide to order some really high-calorie coffee and cake or something? ? I'll look so awkward sitting there with my unsweetened iced coffee lol

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Posted 26 August 2018 - 04:08 PM

I hate hanging out because it always makes me feel bad about food. All of my friends are prettier and skinnier than me and don’t have these food issues and can just eat a normal amount of food at every meal. The only person who never made me feel bad about my eating was my ex boyfriend because he knew I struggled a lot with it and didn’t want to pressure me. If we were at a fast food place with friends he would offer to have pretended to eat with me earlier so our friends wouldn’t question why I didn’t eat anything and then take me to get a salad after. But like why couldn’t we just have hung out without food to begin with?????
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Posted 26 August 2018 - 04:08 PM

i hate it so much,that makes me want to hide always in my apartment.


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Posted 26 August 2018 - 04:58 PM

It’s so annoying. Like I’ll ask my friends to hang out and I’ll be like let’s watch a movie or go to a museum and they always have to be like ok so we can get dinner before and then go and it’s so frustrating bc I’m going out to avoid eating and have an excuse for my parents!!

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Posted 26 August 2018 - 08:23 PM

Yes! it's very frustrating trying to come up with ways not to eat or having to figure out what you can eat from whatever food were having


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Posted 26 August 2018 - 08:32 PM

Nope, however I can get away with not eating becasue I flat out tell them that I will waste it...and I truly do waste food, like take a couple bites and throw it out
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Posted 26 August 2018 - 08:38 PM

Same here! I think this all the time. In fact just the other day I thought “Why is everyone obsessed with food?!” (It’s funny cuz I’m obsessed with food in a different way) Like why do we HAVE to get pizza when we meet? Why do we HAVE to have chips? It’s super annoying and people don’t realize how tormented I am trying to either avoid eating whatever it is or figuring out compensation and on top of that if it’s something difficult to count the calories, that’s more work and stress. For normal people, they can just go out and eat with no care in the world but for some of us it’s a huge ordeal.

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Posted 26 August 2018 - 09:01 PM

Yesss it’s so uncomfortable. My friends know I have an ED so they don’t force me to eat so it’s meh. But it’s like before and after we do like anything I swear.

But my bae rn, he’s perfect. He lit actually gets that its uncomfortable. He will take me on dates for drink things (tea, coffee, sparkling waters), things that he knows doesn’t stress me out. He will always ask me what I want first so I don’t feel ashamed to turn something down. And if I want something extra I don’t feel shy expressing it.

It’s really fucking nice tbh.
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Posted 26 August 2018 - 10:47 PM

Yes!!

The same way as I dont understand why people cant just hang out without alcohol late at night, I dont get why every meeting has to involve some group eating. Like what,  everyone just got hungry at once? Nothing else to do? The fact that you have mouth doesnt mean you have to eat smth...

Sounds mean but...yeah!


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Posted 27 August 2018 - 12:03 AM

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Posted 27 August 2018 - 01:48 AM

"Social events" seem to be more about food and/or alcohol than about quality, meaningful social interaction, that's kind of shitty. I hate how food is a part of every gathering and when I refuse, it's either rude or really awkward.
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Posted 27 August 2018 - 01:56 AM

God I hate it. People want to eat all the goddamn time. Sick motherfuckers.

If you can manage to live under the ruse the rest of your life, tell everyone you take MAOIs and therefore eating unplanned things will genuinely kill you.


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Posted 07 September 2018 - 12:43 AM

Yesss it’s so uncomfortable. My friends know I have an ED so they don’t force me to eat so it’s meh. But it’s like before and after we do like anything I swear.

But my bae rn, he’s perfect. He lit actually gets that its uncomfortable. He will take me on dates for drink things (tea, coffee, sparkling waters), things that he knows doesn’t stress me out. He will always ask me what I want first so I don’t feel ashamed to turn something down. And if I want something extra I don’t feel shy expressing it.

It’s really fucking nice tbh.


The last guy I dated tried to force me to go out to eat with him all the time and if I said I wasn’t hungry or didn’t want to he made me feel guilty about it. So I’m glad there are good people who are understanding out there!!
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Posted 07 September 2018 - 05:25 AM

The last guy I dated tried to force me to go out to eat with him all the time and if I said I wasn’t hungry or didn’t want to he made me feel guilty about it. So I’m glad there are good people who are understanding out there!!


They exist! Yes! He isn’t a big eater really himself so it’s easy.

I’m sorry he made you feel guilty, he should learn to eat beforehand for your comfort. And you should be able to tell him when you want to eat without it being an ordeal. There’s a guy out there for you that will.

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Posted 07 September 2018 - 06:50 AM

It frustrates me to no end. Like holidays.. (especially Thanksgiving. I mean, the whole day pretty much starts and ends with food. >_<)

Also vacation. My family tends to go on vacation once every year (in fact it’s this week and I’m stressing so much) and while we ~usually~ end up picking a restaurant to eat at as the big main meal of the day, sometimes they want to go out for lunch and then dinner, or go out for dessert on top of that. It really sucks because I want to enjoy myself doing all the activities a vacation has to offer (like walking around—burn those extra calories and enjoy the sights, am I right?) but the whole food uncertainty thing (and the fact that I’m surrounded 24/7) makes it hard.



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