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#61 bellaelizabeth



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Posted 07 September 2018 - 10:21 AM

omfg every. single. time. me and my friends go out we go to lunch/ dinner and it is sooo awful. they always want like in n out or something and i either cant get anything or have to chew n spit.

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Posted 07 September 2018 - 12:29 PM

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Posted 07 September 2018 - 01:36 PM

I think this is why I have social anxiety so bad.
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Posted 17 September 2018 - 10:16 AM

Ugh this is why I hate going out. Even on dates out of town, we always end up eating somewhere and sometimes I can't read the calories because Mexican restaurants don't have calories listed for some reason and I hate asking for them. That's why I like KnW or olive garden. At least you can get a salad there. Funny story, I went about 2 weeks ago and I was nervous because of all of the people and this lady asked if I was okay and needed help so I said no. Then I go to get some rice and the guy asked "you sure you don't want any meat" I almost cried....WHY DO YOU ASK A STRANGER THOSE THINGS WHEN THEY ARE CLEARLY ANXIOUS.



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Posted 04 October 2018 - 01:22 AM

yeah, i get it. and even if it does begin as something else, it always seems to end up involving food. it's so frustrating, especially because if you refuse or eat less, then everyone looks at you weirdly because everyone else is eating. 

what do you do when everyone thinks you're recovered (you're not) and you've gained weight (too much) and you're at a healthy weight (not skinny enough to have an eating disorder anymore), but every waking thought is of food and calories and your body?



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Posted 13 October 2018 - 07:50 PM

Ugh, I hate it.   


Every single family gathering is ALL about the food.  What did you bring, did you taste Aunt Mabel's pie, did you get some of those really good meatballs that your cousin made, can you believe your Great-aunt Shirley brought THAT, everybody write down what you brought and the recipe in this notebook... 


I mean it just gets ridiculous. 


Everyone shows up, lays out the food, eats, talks with their mouths full, and leaves. 


Family time, right?  Ugh. 

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Posted 13 October 2018 - 08:17 PM

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Posted 13 October 2018 - 08:24 PM

It sucks because from the beginning of my relationship, my partner and I have had this routine of meeting up after they finish work, having food together, and watching TV.

They used to have an ED too, years ago, but they're recovered, and in the meantime, I've relapsed. I've been saying I'm not too hungry etc but they've obv figured out what's going on. They still make food for both of us every time we see each other, and I know it's from a place of care and from being used to a routine, but man, it makes me anxious.

I hate it when people know I've got an ED though, even if my partner understands what it's like.

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Posted 13 October 2018 - 08:28 PM

Everything! Seriously. And most people simply don’t care to eat healthily. Then you have to say β€œno” to pizza or whatever it is and they drill you as to why. I’m like β€œwhy do you WANT to eat it!?” Usually, they are overweight since most people literally are now and they’re like β€œyou’re thin so..” and then I feel defensive.

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Posted 13 October 2018 - 08:29 PM


It’s certainly one of the things that isolates anorexics. :/

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Posted 13 October 2018 - 09:48 PM

i really hate it. :unsure: i've stopped hanging out with my friends after school bc every time we hang out, it's always to go out and get food.

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Posted 16 October 2018 - 06:34 AM

I can relate so much. The borrels (not sure if that's an English word) of our study assocation take place at dinner time, so there is often free food. And when you say you do not want to have some food. They are like wtf. 

And worst of all the free food is most of the time pizza. And gosh I love pizza

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Posted 16 October 2018 - 07:07 AM

Everyone wanting to eat all the time I can handle. I'm at the point in my life where I can sit there with a diet coke and give no fucks. What I can't deal with are the hideous chewing sounds and bizarre normie diet logic that comes with most social meals.

Tell me again about starvation mode with that half masticated hunk of cow in your gaping maw. Riveting. Eating out with people really aggravates my misanthropy.
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Posted 16 October 2018 - 07:11 AM

...The borrels (not sure if that's an English word)...

We'd probably say, drinks. It's not quite an accurate translation, but very close. "Drinks", lacks the semi formalized invitation behind, borrels; but close enough.

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Posted 17 October 2018 - 01:01 PM

Some say food brings people together. Sure does suck though.
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Posted 17 October 2018 - 01:01 PM

i'm wondering the same thing. having fun means going to eat for people

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Posted 17 October 2018 - 01:03 PM

Yeah I hate that so I always try to arrange it so we plan to "go for coffee" . Nearly everyone I know is kind of used to that by now so no one asks to go for food as much anymore

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Posted 01 November 2018 - 08:18 PM

for dates, i would try to make it outdoorsy and calorie burning. like walking around the city or going on a morning hike. you burn calories, eat little to nothing, and end up having great conversation/ a really good time. but if you're not the one organizing the event, i see the problems that can surface there.

girls and their curls and their gourmet vomit

boys and their toys and their six inch rockets

we're all very lovely 'til we get to know each other

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Posted 01 November 2018 - 08:25 PM

No I relate to this. I accept coffees with friends/acquaintances. Some will suggest a walk, my neighbour will come and do bits and pieces in my garden (with or without me) - which is nice.
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Posted 02 November 2018 - 07:25 AM


Lol same
And then I usually binge sitting at home
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