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#81 RazorbladeHipbones


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Posted 02 November 2018 - 07:26 AM

Yeah, I totally get it.
I'm getting closer to this guy I like, and he said we should "hang out" sometime. Unfortunately, that probably means getting lunch after school...

So happy for you! Hope he's "the one." 

Please don't let your ED isolate you or inhibit this chance with him in any way.

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Posted 02 November 2018 - 07:28 AM

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Posted 02 November 2018 - 07:31 AM

Ugh this is why I hate going out. Even on dates out of town, we always end up eating somewhere and sometimes I can't read the calories because Mexican restaurants don't have calories listed for some reason and I hate asking for them. That's why I like KnW or olive garden. At least you can get a salad there. Funny story, I went about 2 weeks ago and I was nervous because of all of the people and this lady asked if I was okay and needed help so I said no. Then I go to get some rice and the guy asked "you sure you don't want any meat" I almost cried....WHY DO YOU ASK A STRANGER THOSE THINGS WHEN THEY ARE CLEARLY ANXIOUS.

The food was good though!

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Posted 02 November 2018 - 09:12 AM

My aunt literary asked me once "Why are you even coming if  you're not going to eat anything?"

Like EXCUSE ME maybe I want to spend time with my amazing family because I fucking love you guys???"

So discouraging :/

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Posted 02 November 2018 - 09:19 AM

I tell myself I cant go to this or that bc I havent lost enough weight since the last time I've seen that group of people...but then I'll stay home and b/p all day. Why am I like this.
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Posted 02 November 2018 - 09:20 AM

Every time I go anywhere with family friends there is a big meal involved, why???

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Posted 11 November 2018 - 02:30 PM

It really doesn't. On the other hand, spending a special occasion with someone who can't eat is extremely demanding. 

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Posted 11 November 2018 - 05:23 PM

This is my biggest problem. I want to hang with my friends and boyfriend but all they ever want to do is eat. I feel horrible always canceling, but it just causes too much anxiety to be around food. 





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Posted 11 November 2018 - 05:26 PM

that's just the way it is fammmmm

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Posted 11 November 2018 - 05:54 PM

tbh this is why i don't have friends and the ones i do have never hang out with me outside of school... yikes...

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Posted 11 November 2018 - 06:11 PM

Social gatherings of Antiquity only happened rarely and around harvest time--- fast forward to present day we are doing the same thing as our ancestors however the food is GMO and plentiful.
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Posted 11 November 2018 - 06:25 PM

People and their food. It's like men are with sex.


Gotta have it!

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Posted 11 November 2018 - 06:25 PM

Yes! I tend to plan things around 7pm with friends and say that I promised my fam I'd have dinner with them. If they ask to go out for something afterwards I suggest a coffee shop...and stick to coffee.
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Posted 15 November 2018 - 06:27 PM

So happy for you! Hope he's "the one."

Please don't let your ED isolate you or inhibit this chance with him in any way.

Keep us posted!

He started moving veeeery fast. I wasn't comfortable with that so it's not happening anymore
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Posted 18 November 2018 - 07:52 AM

Whenever we arrange study dates w/ my uni friends, their first question is not what material we should look over or where we should meet... it's what snacks we should bring ._. how do you even focus on studying when you're surrounded by food, which basically, in itself, is a stimuli for all senses?

And yeah, generally every time they want to go out, it's for food... 

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Posted 03 December 2018 - 05:48 PM



i just say i prefer to do activities (that burn calories lol) such as hikes etc. for dates and socializing.


sometimes i feel like going out actually makes me eat less food in the days leading to it because i know ill be photographed/judged/etc so it gives me more motivation to be thin.


look for the positives/silver lining haha  :P


im going to a "girls dinner" this friday night so im planning on eating like lettuce on thursday and when im there i will just shuffle food around my plate.


a good way to look like u dont have an ed is when the food comes out be like the first one to take a bite. make it really obvious like smile and put on a show lmaoooo yeppp i love food. they will all fall for it. then u just edit a video of the food youve taken for instagram for far too long and then u also get away with eating nothing else aha . put food on ur plate as well then like fein being so stuffed. 

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Posted 03 December 2018 - 05:54 PM

Feels. My family knows I don't eat much when we're out due to my social anxiety so I only eat a bit and purge.

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Posted 05 December 2018 - 09:47 AM

Yes!! And then it gives everyone the opportunity to see you're not eating and make a big deal   :blink: People need to find something else to center their gatherings over.

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Posted 16 December 2018 - 01:26 AM

I like to ask to go hiking or explore a fun trail as a group and see the horror on their faces. 

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Posted 16 December 2018 - 01:29 AM

I know it sucks! When my friends ask me to hang out, I suggest a coffee place so I can sip on some green tea lol. Restaurants are a no-go :(

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