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[roanoke]

So, at school I don't go to many of my lessons due to anxiety so I spend most of my time in a learning support room, the past week this teachers been asking me "Have you eaten your lunch?" And obviously I just say yes automatically when I haven't but I'd been in that room all day so she was really confused but I was able to leave as it was break soon after (phew) but that was only one of the times

Others things the teaching assistants have said are like "no lunch again?" "You need to go get some food"
(There's nothing I can eat from the school because I'm vegan and its all shitty food but nobody believes I am tf lmao) but they're really starting to notice now, today my key worker asked what I had for lunch and I had no answer. There was a discussion about "looking fat". In a classroom and I just said "Well I have no comment" and laughed but I guess the teaching assistant didn't find it very funny and now she's even more worried oops


What can I do to stop this??? If it carries on they tell my parents

[Iamnottomselleck]

Damn i would bring something low cal and safe with me to snack on for that period.

[roanoke]

I'm taking some fruit ❤️

Damn i would bring something low cal and safe with me to snack on for that period.

[anorexicduty]

I was tossed from a college course b/c I was underweight. I could've stayed if I wanted to start eating.  I just left the course and got frustrated and pissed as a result. 

 

I'd recommend not getting your teachers curiosity up. They can do damage if they think you're getting too thin. 

 

They might just tell your parents sooner than you think or make you eat in front of them. 

 

You really need to handle that situation before it gets out of your control. 

[sewerside]

this is late sorry

 

its funny cos at my school theres also a learning support room or what the school like to call 'centre' lmao, i wonder if all schools have that?

what ive found works best when for going in the learning support, having to stay in at lunch or even getting put in isolation is to just say you ate your lunch during the lesson before. the school WANT you to tell them you havent eaten just to make your life worse, give them the answer they dont want. tell them you've eaten. or just bring some crisps in but dont actually eat them and when your in the learning support just take them out your bag and be like 'look, food. i'm about to eat these okay' - shove it in their face and they can't say shit.

 

the school gets me so angry lol 

 

 

[Skinnybirdpal]

This is suuuuuper late

buuut back when i was in high school i'd get my lunch or whatever and give it to hungry kids/those who want it OR pack a suuuuper light lunch and keep the trash to have evidence to show i ate

[soft*mochi]

I'd have the same thing. Because of a realization of me being fat from a teacher, I used to think "look teachers, this is what you wanted." and just leave. But of course, i couldn't just say that. And if i told them my problems, I would most likely be asked well then, why are you not skinny then or some crap like that. Teachers but mainly students asked me why I didn't eat during lunch. My excuse would be, a) I ate breakfast and im full,  my stomach hurts, or c) my favorite and most clever, I eat when I get home.

 

Most just nodded their head and looked the other way or resumed the conversation. The others just stared at me and would exclaim, "But thats too long without food!" I'd just shrug and say "I don't get really hungry." Thats what made people give up. 

 

If you show others you are in control, they wont bother you. Dont EVER hesitate when answering. Thats what makes people know you are weak or unsure about eating. They will offer to even buy you something. I feel terrible when I hate to immediately throw it up before school started again. 

[dog.]

can't you just tell teachers that you were so hungry you ate your lunch in your last class - that's what I used to do in school. They don't really ask questions after a while, because they figure "oh she's taking care of herself, she just doesn't happen to eat in front of me."

[thebitchisback]

can't you just tell teachers that you were so hungry you ate your lunch in your last class - that's what I used to do in school. They don't really ask questions after a while, because they figure "oh she's taking care of herself, she just doesn't happen to eat in front of me."

the thing about that is that teachers talk to each other. if they're concerned about your health and you say you ate last period, they'll check in with that teacher. and then they'll know you're lying. lying = something to hide. you've gotta bring something, even if it's small, and eat every single day. fruit, soup & crackers, salad, anything. 

[dog.]

the thing about that is that teachers talk to each other. if they're concerned about your health and you say you ate last period, they'll check in with that teacher. and then they'll know you're lying. lying = something to hide. you've gotta bring something, even if it's small, and eat every single day. fruit, soup & crackers, salad, anything. 

 

 

lol wish my teachers cared that much - I used to sit in the hallway against the lockers during lunch and I'd cry because I was bullied at that school - teachers would only stop to tell me that I wasn't aloud in the hallway... so at least your teachers care, that must make for a decent school environment <3

[Alissa_25_25]

Yeah. Some low kcal food or you could take a slice of toast with you , crumble it up and leave some evidence that you 'ate' something. You can leave the crust too to show you have eaten all of that.

Btw, I know how you feel. I once got my math test back and it was a bad grade even though I'm good in maths (please don't hate me). My teacher asked me why I did so bad in that test and I just said I couldn't focus. He asked me multiple times, everyday. Now he thinks I have ADHD. In reality I had suicidal thoughts and was thinking about what I would b/p on at home but ofc I couldn't tell him that. Stay strong

[vikihabes]

My school called my mom because I didn't go to lunch for two months. She was super upset, so I said it's because of my social anxiety and now she lets me make my own lunch. School knows about it as well, so they just don't care anymore.

[seasnake]

I'd ask if they have a medical degree, and if they say no then I'd tell them to stop asking.

[Emy.a]

I'd ask if they have a medical degree, and if they say no then I'd tell them to stop asking.

Best comment ever xD

[seasnake]

I was tossed from a college course b/c I was underweight. I could've stayed if I wanted to start eating.  I just left the course and got frustrated and pissed as a result. 

 

I'd recommend not getting your teachers curiosity up. They can do damage if they think you're getting too thin. 

 

They might just tell your parents sooner than you think or make you eat in front of them. 

 

You really need to handle that situation before it gets out of your control. 

 

 

That isn't even legal.

[periwinklebuckethat]

No one really cares if I eat or not, there's a lot of kids at my school they're not concerned if I don't eat. One time a teacher asked me about it, but I just did homework during lunch. They just assume that I'm trying to get all my work done before I get home. Sometimes I buy my friends lunch so I have charges on my account so if my parents were to check nothing will be off.

[Goodbyenono]

Don't know if it would work but could you collect empty junk food wrappers and store them in your bag so whenever you need, you can leave them out like evidence that you'd eaten earlier??

[Jetstar27]

Take a thermos with hot water, broth or tea. Say it’s soup. Or tell them to shut their face.

[jlswizzle (they/them)]

I'd bring a small salad, piece of fruit, or a small shake.  Or you can just say you ate a big breakfast/ don't feel well.

 

I only ever had one teacher say something to me.  She was sitting nest to me and said "Woah I can see your hip bone.... Is everything okay"  (She was my Medical Terminology teacher)  The rest I assume noticed, but trusted me enough that I wasn't *cough* starving myself