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[0quiet]

This feels extremely fucking awkward to talk about, but I do want to know. Now, I suffer from really bad social anxiety, so that already puts a huge damper on my sexual experiences (though my sex drive is otherwise completely normal when I'm alone). But I've noticed that when I'm restricting (300/500cal or fasting), my sex drive goes down way too much. I feel very awkward about it, because I already have those struggles with anxiety, and another problem on top of that just really sucks. Wouldn't be a problem, but I'm dating someone that has neither problems you know...

I don't want to be that dude with all these damn issues, cause it must be off putting to the person you're dating. Now that I've gotten closer to him (emotionally) and my social anxiety is laying down a bit, I've got this problem with a low sex drive. We've met 3 times now and on the second date he wanted to take it there (I'm being so pg lol) and all I could basically do was please him. I kinda declined on him touching me, and he was fine and understanding, but I wonder how long I can keep that going. Knowing guys, that's gonna get old real fast.

We just had our third date and I basically ran back to this forum lol. We cuddled and kissed a lot, really great, and we've made plans for tomorrow (aka he's still interested) but nothing happened tonight and I'm scared I'm basically boring him by not having sex. I tried to ole' alcohol trick tonight, but while it made me more pleasurable to be around, it did nooothing to loosen me up physically.

I was wondering if any of you guys experience the same thing? How in the hell do you deal with this? I'm going from one problem to another. It's fucking me up man. This is just a major TMI but I'm hoping praying I'm not the only one. Please don't leave me hanging lol.

[seasnake]

Typically sex drive drops down when you are dropping weight, not so much when you are retaining weight and tends to return to normal when you weight goes back up to a healthy weight.  The reason for this is that when dropping weight or too low of weight the body seeks to preserve itself at the cost of reproduction as your body is more important than trying to reproduce so all the nutrients used for reproduction are instead used for self-preservation.  When you hold your weight steady/maintain weight your body can often enough go back into reproduction mode but if your weight is too low you may have to up it a bit, or at least take vitamin supplements.

[Pizza Kamikaze]

My sex drive made a brief appereance when I went through puberty and then disappeared forever.

[0quiet]

Typically sex drive drops down when you are dropping weight, not so much when you are retaining weight and tends to return to normal when you weight goes back up to a healthy weight.  The reason for this is that when dropping weight or too low of weight the body seeks to preserve itself at the cost of reproduction as your body is more important than trying to reproduce so all the nutrients used for reproduction are instead used for self-preservation.  When you hold your weight steady/maintain weight your body can often enough go back into reproduction mode but if your weight is too low you may have to up it a bit, or at least take vitamin supplements.

Thanks for the info! I had the feeling it was something like that. Last week I restricted heavily and dropped a whole lot of weight, so it just made me nervous. This week won't be as severe so I hope that will help a bit. And vitamins! Yeah, started taking those today.

[0quiet]

My sex drive made a brief appereance when I went through puberty and then disappeared forever.

That's pretty heavy! Do you mind it? Do you date and if yes, does it get in the way?

[Pizza Kamikaze]

That's pretty heavy! Do you mind it? Do you date and if yes, does it get in the way?

Yeah, I didn't know asexuality was a thing, although I think there's smth wrong with my hormones. But back then I thought you had to pretend to like sex and get on with life.

[0quiet]

Yeah, I didn't know asexuality was a thing, although I think there's smth wrong with my hormones. But back then I thought you had to pretend to like sex and get on with life.
I don't mind it, my boyfriend of 8+ years in the other hand... he hates me deeply, and I mean that. He claims I've made his life miserable blah blah blah. *shrugs*

I do get a "romantic" flare up every 3 years or more but it's not really a sexual thing, more like platonically falling in love or becoming fixated with the idea of someone (boy or girl) the way they talk, look and their personality. So I walk around high on euphoria for a week or two breathing it all in like it's Summertime and then it's gone.

That's interesting, that could be a hormonal problem indeed. But asexuality is of course also possible. Can't be easy to keep a relationship going, especially that long. Is it still enjoyable at all?

As if it was planned, my sex drive came back yesterday. I saw the guy I'm dating and all was well (foreplay) until it kinda got "serious" and then anxiety just takes over. That always happens. I just pleasured him (which I do find enjoyable, not like I was forcing myself) and while he took a shower I finished myself off. Yeah, that's how I know it's not a hormonal issue or whatever, it's just the intimacy that freaks me the hell out :l Then I joined him in the shower. He didn't ask questions or whatever he was just like, "Oh, you finished?" and that was it. He's pretty gentle as far as I know him, so I'm glad it wasn't too uncomfortable afterwards, just beating myself up in my head as usual. Maybe it would actually be better if he asked if something was wrong, so he knows what's happening with me. But we're just dating and getting to know each other, I don't really want to open myself up that much you know :/ I'm sure it will come up at some point anyway, cause my anxiety isn't just in the bedroom. My mental issues make me feel like I'm undateable so I'm really just pretending I'm fine like any other person and I can't actually get into a relationship without him knowing what's up.

Anyway, vitamin pills might help. Why do they make those pills so damn big by the way, my gag reflex is sensitive as fuck

[mdmaprince]

honestly not gonna keep it pg cuz so i can be more specific but i literally have not had a single issue with my sex drive ever and i went from 135 lbs to 114 lbs in 3 months so i was restricting low af and no issues but my only issue is my gag reflex is sensitive since ive been purging so im afraid of sex too im scared ill vomit on someones dick LMAO i just get anxiety about it because i feel like they would see me normal because i wear big sweaters so they wouldnt know that im so skinny so when im like riding that dick like a cowboy (yeehaw sis) and them focusing on my bones moving around

[skinnyboyeternal]

well i will say that the E.D. fucked up my hormones for quite awhile. cyberporn during my puberty time (which came late, thanks to the ED) didn't help either.(though what are you supposed to do when you look 12 lol), though i kinda had to rehabilitate myself to women and society for awhile. now that i'm done growing i just feel skinnyfat so i vape a lot and dont eat a lot so of course my sex drive isnt going to be the highest. if i eat normally though i get really fucking horny.

 

truth is, if you dont eat, you wont have a sex drive. eat like a monk to have sex like one.

[Späcebøy]

My sex drive made a brief appereance when I went through puberty and then disappeared forever.

 

I think your sex drive must've picked up my sex drive hitchhiking somewhere in Wyoming. The bastard doesn't even call or write.

[Cydric]

I take antidepressants and mood stabilizers so my sex drive is diminished anyway. But I have severe anxiety when it comes to intimacy. I find it hard to keep it up when I'm with a guy. I guess I'm fucked too and not in a good way.

[【Ｊｏｅｒｉ】]

I got to say mine got higher now and it can be quite annoying at times. and I also have anxiety.

[MadMasterMax]

not to be tmi but I did tend to masturbate when avoiding food (at home only I promise!!) and I kinda think thats why my sex drive has went up instead of down like it's meant to 

[ozatana]

No sex drive due to extremely low bodyfat and me being the dumbfuck I am, I'd rather be silly shredded than have a libido

[Pizza Kamikaze]

not to be tmi but I did tend to masturbate when avoiding food (at home only I promise!!) and I kinda think thats why my sex drive has went up instead of down like it's meant to

Maybe you're subconsciously just trying to raise your serotonine levels.

[MadMasterMax]

Maybe you're subconsciously just trying to raise your serotonine levels.

oof don't call out my depression like that

[I_want_my_bones_back]

I 100% understand you...low sex drive tell me about it.. I was with my ex half a year before the first nookie..

[peterpeternotaneater]

Hey, 19 year old college male here. I totally feel you on this subject. I had a girlfriend for a bit when i first got here but i think she got bored of me pretty fast. she never went down on me and we never had all the way sex. I couldn't do it. I tried to explain that i relapsed really bad and she didn't really understand that meant im gonna be a shell of a person for a while and she started yelling at me a lot about random shit so I dumped her. It really fucks with people. She was a bitch honestly but like.. I was dating a beautiful girl. Its everything I would have wanted when I was younger but I couldn't really even enjoy it.

[Cyclades]

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