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#1 dontwannastop



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Posted 26 July 2019 - 02:58 AM

So my son is almost 10 months old and even though I lost all the pregnancy weight (61lbs)by 3 months postpartum, my tummy is saggy. I hate it so much, it's just all soft and squishy and loose. It's like a mild mommy apron, ew. If I didn't have diastasis, it wouldn't be as loose as it is.

The gap between my abs is 3 fingers wide above my belly button and 2 fingers wide underneath my belly button.

Any other moms out there with this? Has yours healed? What did you do?

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Posted 26 July 2019 - 05:53 AM

I had a pretty big gap too, my son is 3 1/2 now though. I had a mild mommy apron too! In time, my stomach shrunk, especially when I lost weight. I lost slowly though. Maybe it’s just more pronounced for you because you’re body hasn’t had time to adjust to the stretch and then weight loss. My stomach isn’t firm, it’s still squishy but it’s flat now. I know this sucks to hear, but give it time, that’s really all you can do. Try hard not to be too upset, as it’ll just drive you absolutely insane! Like I said, it took me 3 1/2 years to get to a somewhat ‘normal’ body shape. Some moms it takes less, some more. Much love to you!

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Posted 26 July 2019 - 06:00 AM

I had a tummy tuck and excess skin removal, so my surgeon fixed my DR. It was pretty wide, I had excess amniotic fluid with both pregnancies.
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Posted 27 July 2019 - 08:33 AM

Have u tried the exercises to correct it? There's some on Youtube

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Posted 28 July 2019 - 02:26 PM

I've got that too! I was still slightly underweight when I gave birth and my baby was HUGE so now, four years later, I've still got the saggy skin and it keeps getting caught in my jeans and it's so out of proportion to the rest of me, it's so annoying and a huge dysmorphia trigger.

There are exercises you can do to strengthen your core muscles and stomach and it'll help pull those muscles back together but in the case of extra skin, then a tummy tuck or abdominoplasty would be necessary to remove the excess skin unfortunately. I'm saving up for a mini one now

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 04:50 PM

I know this thread is old but this can be fixed surgically.

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Posted 23 May 2021 - 01:01 PM

I have this, even when my youngest is seven years old. It's my biggest insecurity. They said the surgery for it is considered cosmetic, a tummy tuck, so insurance wont cover it, but I am going to try to get an exception to that. 


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Posted 02 September 2021 - 09:28 PM

Look up exercises to help improve the separation, and also how to avoid it if you decide to become pregnant again. I have it but just under a finger's width now. I went to a pelvic floor specialist and she gave me some exercises to help improve it. Nothing will ever completely fix it but surgery.

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