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Need Advice How to Deal with Godson's Mother

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#1 back_to_skinny

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Posted 17 December 2019 - 07:09 AM

Hello everyone,

 

I've been struggling with how to act with the mother of my SO's godson. I'd appreciate any of your opinions on this topic.

 

The last few months she has been taking no interest in our lives. For example, we have a whatsapp group and from time to time I ask how they are doing if there are any news. If she writes back then only very short sentences such as 'We are fine' with no question about how my SO or we are doing. Honestly, this hurts. The last time we went out for dinner (there were two other couples left too) I was sitting next to her, she didn't talk to me at all and showed the person sitting opposite her photos on her phone I felt so excluded. After that incident, I was still nice to her daughter who's a Minnie Mouse fan and had her birthday in November and I bought her a lovely girl dress as a present, still her mother ignores me. The last incident was that I sent them a Christmas Card (again I went out of my way and bought a Mickey Mouse themed one) and all I received was 'Thank you for the card' via Whatsapp. No 'Merry Christmas' or 'How are you doing' or anything. I'm seriously pissed and that want to go there anymore. Her kids love me though and I also enjoy being with them. However, I don't want to feel like this woman's maid who takes care of her children is not treated like a normal human being.

 

Of course, I've talked to my SO who has noticed her behaviour too and finds it unacceptable. The reason why he is her godson's godfather is because of her husband who is my SO's best friend. My SO just says that either I talk to her (but the situation probably won't change since she's a terrible woman) or I ignore her. I tried the latter but I don't feel comfortable at all and the prospect that I have to go there on December 25th just makes me sad.

 

Have you been in a similar situation? Do you have any advice for me?

 

Thank you in advance.


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#2 littlemiss80

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Posted 17 December 2019 - 03:13 PM

I'm sorry I know that hurts alot. I would say since you love her children, keep doing what your doing. Even if she ignores you and is a bitch, because your not only showing a good example for HER children, your being a better person. Take pride in staying kind. Karma will bite her in the ass.

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Posted 18 December 2019 - 08:01 AM

Thank you for your advice. Oftentimes I'm not sure if karma really exists. She's been married for 10 years and treats her husband awfully and still he does everything for her. On the other hand, I believe, I always try my best to treat my SO as well as I can and I haven't even been proposed to... but this is a whole different story. Sorry for the rant

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Posted 24 December 2019 - 10:40 AM

Thank you for your advice. Oftentimes I'm not sure if karma really exists. She's been married for 10 years and treats her husband awfully and still he does everything for her. On the other hand, I believe, I always try my best to treat my SO as well as I can and I haven't even been proposed to... but this is a whole different story. Sorry for the rant


Maybe your SO is scared of commitment...and you need someone with the same goal of marriage and kids


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