I sort of get what she's trying to say with the cake thing? like yeah it's bad that we equate morals and worth to food. but saying 'i'll just have a small piece please' isn't fatphobic, unless you make a thing about it, surely?
as someone who did the whole 'i'm fat and i'm fine' denial thing for a good few years, i wish wish wish that shit food (by which i mean calorie-dense, nutritionless food) wasn't so normalised. i do feel like a freak now compared to other people who will shovel it down at every meal and think nothing of it, while i'm agonising about having a few chips off my boyfriend's plate.
My bmi is 20 and i'm the thinnest person I know, all my best friends are fat and it's hard to talk about food with them (although mostly they know about my disordered eating so they're more forgiving, i always feel like i'm putting my foot in it). I wish people would believe that i genuinely do prefer fresh veg and whole grains to a big mac. When you put shit into your body you feel like shit.
My father is in his late 60s and doesn't like fast food, he eats well and properly- he grew up on meat and two veg sort of meals (his dad was big into growing veg in the garden), and it shows. He was always an optimal weight as I was growing up but is slightly overweight now just because he drinks ale and he's slowing down as he gets older. He's never worried about his weight in an unhealthy way, but he is gently aware about his diet. He's got it right imo, he knows how to cook, loves 'fresh' things and he's the sort of person who will just enjoy what he's eating, not stuff himself, and keep active. Imagine finding it that easy!