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#1 MrsN

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Posted 03 February 2020 - 06:39 AM

Apologies for the rant..... I'm going through a bit of a relapse at the moment and finding it more difficult emotionally than in the past. Yesterday I took my 6 year old son out and we went to a coffee shop. He questioned why I wasn't having cake too and it broke my heart when he cut his in half to share with me. I didn't want to let him down so I C/S into a napkin instead. I lied to his face by saying I'd already had a big breakfast. I hate how quickly the lies and deception creep in. I love both of my children and I hate that the ED makes me behave this way! Can anyone here relate? X
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Posted 06 February 2020 - 06:08 AM

yes. my 3 and 5 year olds constantly remind me i need to eat and force feed me. i love them but it hurts.


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Posted 19 February 2020 - 10:47 AM

I have two young children as well and can completely relate to this. I try to eat normally in front of them and hide my ED as much as possible. My daughter has already started noticing and asking why I donโ€™t serve myself some foods or as much food at dinner. I have lied saying I ate some already while I was cooking. I also hide any measuring of foods. Itโ€™s hard. If my child cut his or her cake in half to share with me I think I would have to eat it and just live with the discomfort of having eaten it. I hate that I canโ€™t do something like a two week lemonade cleanse anymore but in a way I am thankful for them because they make me behave normally, at least when Iโ€™m with them. It also forces me to plan healthy dinners for their sake.

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Posted 27 February 2020 - 09:17 PM

Apologies for the rant..... I'm going through a bit of a relapse at the moment and finding it more difficult emotionally than in the past. Yesterday I took my 6 year old son out and we went to a coffee shop. He questioned why I wasn't having cake too and it broke my heart when he cut his in half to share with me. I didn't want to let him down so I C/S into a napkin instead. I lied to his face by saying I'd already had a big breakfast. I hate how quickly the lies and deception creep in. I love both of my children and I hate that the ED makes me behave this way! Can anyone here relate? X


I'm having this exact issue with my 5 year old he asked why I won't eat dinner with him and is it because I don't like him it killed me. So now (we sit on the bed) I put a bowl and then a plate of. My food on top. Then slide some into the bowl here and there. It won't last long he will catch on if I don't think of something soon. But he's so so so happy we are eating together ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ
๐Ÿ’Š๐Ÿšฌ๐ŸŽถ bring the drugs baby I can bring my pain ๐ŸŽถ๐Ÿšฌ๐Ÿ’Š

Relapsed,recovered,relapsed, recovered,relapsed,recovered,relapse,recovered,relapsed,,recovered
Seems my life got stuck on repeat.

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Posted 06 March 2020 - 01:56 AM

I hate lying to my kids; I have three children. I want to be well for them so much and I use them as motivation to not slip further into relapse but it is so hard. Maternal guilt is real.

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Posted 15 March 2020 - 10:40 PM

nm.
That's it no more hummus. (The next day has more, lolz.)


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