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how in touch are you with your feminine side?


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#1 Miloš

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Posted 10 June 2020 - 05:55 PM

just curious, really



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Posted 10 June 2020 - 05:56 PM

don't u have a homework assignment to finish?

 

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#3 Miloš

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Posted 10 June 2020 - 05:58 PM

don't u have a homework assignment to finish?

 

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Posted 10 June 2020 - 05:59 PM

mpa is consuming me bruh

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Posted 10 June 2020 - 06:52 PM

i get my eyebrows fixed like once a year and secretly love pop music does that count?


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#6 Miloš

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Posted 11 June 2020 - 08:54 AM

i get my eyebrows fixed like once a year and secretly love pop music does that count?

probably, based on stereotypes

i try to do my eyebrows about once a month, it just feels natural



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Posted 11 June 2020 - 08:36 PM

I do drag, does that count lmao

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Posted 13 June 2020 - 03:04 AM

Zero. If there was anything feminine in me it was crushed by my brutal manliness and the bench presses I did by the age of 2. If I ever feel an emotion coming on I make sure to punch a wall and say a slur to regain my masculinity. 


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Posted 16 June 2020 - 11:12 PM

out of touch with both masculine and feminine. either I judge things neutral or I don't care about labels. but I'm not afraid of doing girly/boyish things. I keep my appearance but maintain it to a minimum, I also don't look manly but don't "act womanly". I'm quite in the middle.



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Posted 19 June 2020 - 01:57 AM

out of touch with both masculine and feminine. either I judge things neutral or I don't care about labels. but I'm not afraid of doing girly/boyish things. I keep my appearance but maintain it to a minimum, I also don't look manly but don't "act womanly". I'm quite in the middle.


Would you identify yourself as non-binary then?

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Posted 24 June 2020 - 05:31 AM

Very in touch with both sides

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Posted 04 July 2020 - 10:12 AM

I'm a stay at home dad with *many* daughters.  They are teenagers now,  I've raised them since there were 0yrs.  That changes your perspective.  Most nights I braid hair.  I hear more details of their days than I can keep straight because they basically brain dump.  I love this.

 

*BUT* it's a relief when I can get some balance.


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Posted 04 August 2020 - 10:00 PM

Would you identify yourself as non-binary then?

I did not really give that much thought about it, honestly. My gender expression is not confined to tight boundaries, so it can be a bit "experimental" sometimes, or utterly boring. I just go with what works for me. However, I always had a preference for androgynous/androgyny aesthetics, so it plays a slight role. So I can use skirts or military trousers with boots; I know how to walk in heels but also know a bit of carpentry; I did have a long beard and moustache that I could braid, but also a clean shave from time to time; my eyebrows are quite masculine/bushy but I shape them arched, quite feminine, then I forget for months and they are like tarantulas again. It's a cycle.

I just experiment with things. If it makes sense to me and I like it, whatever. It's an instrumental reasoning process. That's why I said I'm "out of touch" with both, because I'm not trying to "channel" any of them.

I'm detached so it helps with caring less. Simply put, I'm non-traditional and don't care too much about being a [gender], I even forget about that in me. If I could, I'd use a neutral term, but if I am a "man", so be it, I guess.

(PS. That does not mean I'm blind to sexism and pointlessly gendered problems we face as humans, but that's off-topic.)

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Posted 05 August 2020 - 12:36 AM

I'm not sure. Probably at least somewhat?

 

Style-wise, I actually want to be more androgynous than I currently am. So I guess I'm more willing to experiment than some guys are. It just seems like if you're willing to do even a few stereotypically feminine things, it opens up a lot more ways to express yourself

 

I've always had at least one close female friend at any given time. I don't feel as comfortable around women as I do around men, though. Something about the conversational dynamic. With that said, I'm definitely out of touch with the extreme end of masculinity

 

My hobbies would be considered feminine from the outside, but I don't feel feminine doing any of it. None of my male role models were traditionally masculine, so I just didn't grow up with a strict separation between what men are and what women are. And I'm grateful for that.


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Posted 05 August 2020 - 09:10 PM

My mannerisms are like. Pretty gay (even though I'm not gay, I'm bi). I don't necessarily ""look"" gay or feminine, because I dress pretty masc, but when I'm comfortable around people my mannerisms are definitely like "oh yeah. that guy is for sure queer. no question". When I'm around people I don't know, I definitely put on more masc mannerisms just because I don't want judgement or like, to be hate crimed.

 

I have a decent balance of male and female friends, and I feel like I get along well with women.

 

I also do art, which has a somewhat feminine connotation, but I design tattoos so ...

 

I guess I'm kind of in touch with my feminine side? I find it hard to accept that I have more feminine characteristics sometimes, but I feel like that's probably some good old fashioned toxic masculinity and "internalized homophobia" or whatever. Especially hard with an ED, I feel like people are going to automatically assume things about me if I tell them I have an ED. Only a few people IRL know about my ED, just because there's so much stigma.


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Posted 24 August 2020 - 07:48 PM

Yes, but I don't talk or act flamboyantly. 

 

I don't like looking the least bit masculine and hate the idea of being dominant/strong. 


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Posted 07 September 2020 - 06:47 AM

In touch enough that I'm 26 and still fit 30-30.i classify that as feminine side because of course the lower body is ruled by the feminine energy and men with slender hips or nice legs are traditionally viewed as suspect. if you want to look really straight just have a gut and a big donk. however some girls took note of the feminine pep in my step and found it cute that I have pep as opposed to waddling. so, win? [dab]

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Posted 07 September 2020 - 04:29 PM

honestly, i'm pretty fem. i like it like that, though.

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Posted 09 September 2020 - 09:00 AM

I paint my nails (black) and don’t really shy away from sparkly or colourful things, but I’m not that feminine in terms of my personality.


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Posted 21 September 2020 - 12:57 PM

I never really associated with or fitted in with either the masculine or feminine forms of gender expression, I just kind of feel like I do my own thing, but I guess to very masculine presenting guys I would seem slightly more feminine because of this. I basicly dress mostly masculine just to blend in but my general mannerisms and such are just whatever I like.


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