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#1 skinnygalaxies

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Posted 01 July 2020 - 03:49 AM

I want to hear your most toxic reason for wanting to lose weight. I have several but the one that has been the most motivation recently is that my boyfriend's ex was only 92 pounds. He told me that he likes my curves but his track record with women have always been petite. The fact that I'm twice her size disgusts me. I'm sure he'd love someone he could toss around but I weigh the same as him. 


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#2 imperfect_h0m0sapiens

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Posted 01 July 2020 - 03:56 AM

I want to hear your most toxic reason for wanting to lose weight. I have several but the one that has been the most motivation recently is that my boyfriend's ex was only 92 pounds. He told me that he likes my curves but his track record with women have always been petite. The fact that I'm twice her size disgusts me. I'm sure he'd love someone he could toss around but I weigh the same as him.

I'm in a similar boat to you. I weigh more than my fiance by 30lbs and it just feels disgusting as I feel like I'll crush him anytime. And all the women he was attracted to are skinny, one of them 88lbs and like 5'8. So taller and skinnier than me. In fact when we first met I was at my lowest at about 119lbs and now I'm nearly 200 lbs so I need to lose weight otherwise I'll never be confident in our relationship. Feel like he'll get tired of my fat face soon

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#3 Bluefingered

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Posted 01 July 2020 - 03:59 AM

I want to weigh less than my girlfriend by a sizeable amount.

I also want to weigh less than the majority of people in my year group, which shouldn't be too hard at 40kg. I believe the average "thin" weight is around 47--55kg, since most of my peers are taller than me.

It would make other people feel like shit but idc I keep it to myself

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#4 lavender-coffee

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Posted 01 July 2020 - 04:09 AM

I want people to worry about me.

I never got a lot of attention, I just fucking want to be cared for again, like in the childhood I never fully got.

 

(But it also deeply terrifies me and I get pissed if people express concern. I also don't want to manipulate people.)


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#5 Hanniboosh

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Posted 01 July 2020 - 04:19 AM

To more easily attract a guy, to have more choice of guys. Incase my abusive ex ever sees me or a photo of me, so he regrets it and doesn’t just get to laugh and see me as a fat pig. To be noticeably smaller than two of my close friends (one bigger one slightly smaller) so I don’t feel like ‘one of the big girls’.
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#6 feelingempty

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Posted 01 July 2020 - 05:19 AM

I want to be smaller than my boyfriend as I just feel huge in comparison and most of my boyfriend’s family (that thankfully I don’t see that often) seem to have issues with food and his sister clearly has an ED and is absolutely tiny now and I know they all judge me.
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Posted 01 July 2020 - 06:05 AM

-impress men

-remain skinnier than my sister (who also has an ED)

-get my way more often


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Posted 01 July 2020 - 06:35 AM

My husband has lost weight and now I'm 10lbs heavier than he is. I am 5" taller but I still have that mind set that I need to be lighter than him.
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Posted 01 July 2020 - 07:06 AM

My friend group varies a lot by age. We have 23-37yr olds. I'm the oldest female in the group and I really enjoy being skinnier than all the other females despite me being 12yrs older than some of them.

Yeah its fucked up but its toxic enough to keep me going
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#10 DIETTEARS

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Posted 01 July 2020 - 10:54 AM

Want the guy who has been friendzoning me for 5 years to suddenly realise what a mistake he has made. I want him to want me and for me to turn him down, so he knows how painful life has been in his shadow. I want to be able to take sexy selfies and post them online and solicit desperate men on the internet out of money lmao.

 

I also want to lose more weight than my dad, quicker than him to make him jealous. Maybe he'll finally make time for me instead of putting me at the bottom of the priority list like always. He's been on a weight loss journey for two years now and put his heart and soul into it, but he's only either maintaining or losing 1lb a month because of his age and stress in his life. He'd be fucking miserable if I lost double the weight he has after only trying for half the time. This one is especially twisted because he is the only good person in my life and i would literally be dead without him.

 

I want my obese, abusive 'mother' to be mad with jealousy. She admitted to overfeeding me so I could never leave her a few years ago. I want her to see how thin I can get while she sits there at 300 pounds, dying due to complications from diabetes. I want to fatshame the shit out of her and call her a disgusting pig everytime I see her, which is a little irrational seeing as I am absolutely not fatphobic in the slightest outside of this. 


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Posted 01 July 2020 - 11:02 AM

I want to be able to take sexy selfies and post them online and solicit desperate men on the internet out of money lmao.


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Posted 01 July 2020 - 01:12 PM

the attention from men and women lmaoo
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Posted 01 July 2020 - 01:23 PM

I want my ex to feel like he really missed out with me. We're just friends and I wouldn't take him back even if I was single but I want him to feel bad about ever letting me go.

It's not my main reason but it is my most toxic one especially since I'm in a long term relationship.

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Posted 01 July 2020 - 01:44 PM

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I want people I dislike to ask me how I did it and give them some bullshit response like "I started taking evening walks" or "I switched to tortillas instead of bread"
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#15 Mitortuga

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Posted 01 July 2020 - 02:51 PM

A couple of my fiance's exes are a lot hotter than me, but with bad skin and plain faces. I have a pretty nice face with great skin and a really good body shape when I'm not massive so I know if I get the weight off I'll be the hotter one.

I also have an abusive ex that checks up on me a lot (he stupidly emails me whenever a new public post pops up on FB) so I want him to see how amazing I look in my wedding photos.

I also look at my old friends and see how massive they've gotten. Like 300-500 pounds. I want to be as distant from that as possible.

I sound so damn arrogant, but I don't care.
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Posted 01 July 2020 - 03:45 PM

attention from this guy i kinda still have feelings for. he keeps ghosting and ignoring me even tho i thought we were friends or at least friendly acquaintances but i guess not. what do i expect from a popular lacrosse player lmao. when i lose weight, i want him to check me out and admire me at school while i pretend i don't notice, but actually secretly preening under his gaze lmao.


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#17 fattkitty

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Posted 01 July 2020 - 03:56 PM

To make my ex think damn.. (I don't want him back)

And so I can sleep around with men who are more attractive than him.
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#18 branlew

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Posted 01 July 2020 - 04:50 PM

Oh man, reading these other responses. Can not relate. My version of toxic is not on any else's wave length I guess.

 

1. I used to self-harm physically (cutting, burning, burning through all layers of my flesh with chemicals, ripping out all my body hair...you know, etc) so this is just a different version of that. I did a pivot to ED. It's self-harm but, like, people congratulate you on it? insane.

2. I'm a grotesque monster (all wrinkly and nasty with loose gross skin) and I don't deserve to eat. end stop.

3. I would like to be dead? My parents are in their mid 70's at this point. I've been waiting 20 years for them to die so I can off myself. How much longer can it be?


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#19 YouCan'tSeeMe

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Posted 01 July 2020 - 05:15 PM

So I can look unhealthy again
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Posted 01 July 2020 - 09:24 PM

Just to continue on the image I have cultivated. I'm just a fat version of that. I'm fairly confident, which I think came with age. But that doesn't mean I don't hate myself or struggle not to go back to the purging days.
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