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How do y’all feel about the younger Ana crowd now that you’re older?

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#41 NobodyDoll


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Posted 13 November 2020 - 07:48 PM


Yea, there's kinda the urge to say something silly like "don't make the mistakes I did!" ..but going back I don't know if I could do any better. Certainly not without all the time that seems so wasted, and I'm not even sure about my attempts now. You want to have something to tell somebody who is where you were. But.. the fact that you want their life to not end up as fucked up as yours doesn't really constitute advice. (And by "you" I of course mean "me," cuz I can only guess about what's going on in your head. Not that I do much better with my own head.)
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Posted 13 November 2020 - 09:35 PM

I post here and thinspo. I don’t post much. I feel too old to interact with these girls (I’m 37). It would be great to have a active group of ED women, but life is a real thing and time is an issue.

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Posted 13 November 2020 - 11:54 PM

I would love to join. I turn 30 next month

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Posted 15 November 2020 - 09:27 AM

i'm 38 and i don't feel like i fit in at all. i'd love to add you.


I definitely feel the same. every now and then I delete my account on here cause I feel dumb "hanging out" with people who are soooo much younger. I like having a sense of community so I keep coming back lol


Same here!! I still come on here when I’m feeling down/alone in my ed/in a really bad place ED wise, I guess especially lately with pandemic shit since since I’ve been more alone with everywhere closed and nothing interesting going on in my life and on and working from home, ha. Yet when I do browse the forum, I’m usually so disillusioned by the feeling of everyone being young and naive and early in their EDs dealing with shit like hiding their EDs from their parents or stuff with school etc. There’s just a major disconnect from the age difference. It’s not everyone, there are mature younger folks capable of thinking deeper and struggling with serious issues and issues common to anyone with an ed, but so much more so as time goes on, it’s harder to relate.
I’m always glad to feel the camaraderie of the 30+ forum and really should spend more of my time on here vs other boards lol. In particular, shit like people starting posts with “ya boiioiii” and other hip expressions that kids today use that weren’t around when we were under 30, ha. I can’t help but roll my eyes with cynicism when I read stuff, when though I know I was a naive teenager once and probably went through something similR 20 years ago.
They say with age comes cynicism, though... I suppose there’s more truth to that than I could’ve known 10 years ago!
Thanks for the relatable post. Glad you guys are around here to provide support and comfort and relatability!

I can relate to So many of this.
I know my eating habit is still weird.
I try to make It healthy but its very emotional and I ‘la always se me as fat.
I don’t like being a Ana creep but I like the sorority of it.

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Posted 15 November 2020 - 10:20 PM

What is the name of the discord? I’m curious if I’m in it already

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Posted 16 November 2020 - 08:56 AM

I feel like I'm able to relate to all ages.  My brother is only 16 and I coached high school athletes for several years so maybe that's why?

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Posted 17 November 2020 - 06:20 AM

I feel guilty & protective & really really maternal - especially now that I have children.
Like I want to wrap them in blankets, bring them home with me, and love them hard.

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Posted 17 November 2020 - 09:34 AM

OMG! I'm so happy I found this thread. I took a hiatus because I felt weird replying to the younger crowd. Especially as a parent. I was tempted to delete my account altogether because I just didn't feel right. I have a kid entering his preteens and I imagined them sneaking onto a forum like this and thought "wow, what a sh*tty person I am". I'm still unsure if I want to remain here, but I've been a member for so long (under different usernames) and I really do find great support. This is my first day back after being gone for awhile. It's comforting to know i'm not alone in feeling like "the mom".

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Posted 17 November 2020 - 09:36 AM

I have a 14 yr old daughter and some of these girls are 15.
It’s too close, I had to delete a discord today.
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#50 Marjaneh


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Posted 25 December 2020 - 05:55 AM

I feel like the only difference between now and when I was that age is that everyone seems to have an goddamn anime profile pic and they all talk about their favorite Instagrammers/TikTokers/Youtubers/whatever rather than supermodels  :D

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#51 iWearKneeSocks



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Posted 26 December 2020 - 09:05 PM

Same. I’m always worried I’ll influence someone younger than I am in a negative way. I ended up making my own discord for 18+ to avoid feeling like that but even then there’s only a few of us in the late 20’s-30’s group and it occasionally feels awkward around the younger adults.
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Posted 27 December 2020 - 09:24 AM

I can relate to this. I joined this platform when I was really young and wish I'd kept that account because it would be so interesting to read what I wrote when I was young. Even though there are conversations on this platform that definitely don't fit for me, and places where I wish I could tell younger folks to "get out while you can" (lol), it's helpful to have a place where others are going through the same thing. No one in my life understands this.

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Posted 03 January 2021 - 09:03 PM

I feel at a completely different place in my life than the younger crowd. Juggling an ed, husband, kid, and job is just different. I feel like a grandma on most posts.
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#54 leaving_here_soon


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Posted 04 January 2021 - 10:30 AM

It is interesting that there seems to be a repeat of what was happening 10 years ago, but now I have no idea what all the cultural references and, if anything, the lockdowns aroung the world and increased isolation seem to be causing more anxiety, and even making it a little more extreme?


What do you think?

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Posted 05 January 2021 - 06:10 AM

When I see thinspo I don’t see myself anymore. No matter how much weight I lose I won’t be young again. And that sometimes makes me sad sometimes. Still, my teens were a nightmare and my 20s not much better.
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#56 TheBigRedMachine<3


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Posted 13 January 2021 - 10:26 AM

I try to not engage with the younger crowd because I don't want to influence them, I feel like a creep for having a conversation with them, plus I cannot relate. 


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Posted 13 January 2021 - 02:37 PM

It is rather odd. I like ED twitter for collecting thinspo but I'm not apart of the communities. 

I wanna be special. So fucking special.


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Posted 22 January 2021 - 09:34 PM

It really doesn’t sit right with me, I’m
Not on TikTok anymore because so many kids are trying to get into ‘ana’ shit it’s so sad

nap me up, buttercup

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