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This is 30 - Having an ED in Your Thirties MEGATHREAD


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#141 quackaliciously

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Posted 15 March 2021 - 08:38 AM

33 here. Never thought I'd be back here lurking around again. Makes me feel much better that there's a group for the 30+ people. I was never doing very well, just binging through life, but the last few months have been major restrictions again. This Intermittent Fasting craze is a definite trigger and I'm quickly spiraling. I need to lose weight, but I'm so fucked up I have no control to do it the "normal", "healthy" way.



#142 Greyish

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Posted 15 March 2021 - 01:35 PM

I'm 29 and both the 2 people who know about my mental health have said when I am 30 I'll 'discover what really matters'. I'm looking foward to miraculous recovery however in the mean time I guess it's that continual shuffle towards being brave and seeking support.

haha :D Maybe this is the grown up version of Santa? "once you are grown up, made up mental illnesses will disappear, you know, like you invisible friend did..."

 

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Posted 23 March 2021 - 09:21 AM

ugh 30years? I still havent got to adult hood yet Im still in between 16-17yrs in my mind.


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Posted 11 April 2021 - 12:12 PM

Im 30yrs old and I feel like a teenager I also got people that thought I was in my early teens' 


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#145 hazydaisy

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Posted 11 April 2021 - 06:06 PM

I’m 35 and back here after some years off.

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#146 Greyish

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Posted 13 April 2021 - 02:43 PM

I’m 35 and back here after some years off.

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I'm sorry you need this place again, but... Hi! ^_^



#147 roomofglass

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Posted 14 April 2021 - 08:15 AM

I actually developed a full blown ed in my thirties. I’m 34 now and am currently in therapy with an ed specialist. I’ve always had depression/bipolar disorder and ADD. I have a past history of alcohol and drug abuse that I was in 2 rehabs for. I’ve been sober now for 3 years. I feel like I totally missed my twenties, due those issues..now I feel like I’ve fallen into another trap, another roadblock in my life. I’ve always had a bad relationship with food and body image. I guess I just needed the perfect storm to come along to develop an ed. Sorry for the negativity.. Things are tough though and I’m glad this thread exists!

Thank you so much for sharing this! I relate to this so much. I have similar diagnoses and am also sober, and sometimes I feel like such a screw-up. I'm 31 now and got sober at age 20, so I feel like I should be done with all this BS by now. But NOPE!



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Posted 14 April 2021 - 09:58 AM

... why would you be done with a mental illness after a certain age?

 

Recently I saw a woman on instagram, skinny to the bones a few months after giving birth. Apparently the postpartum phase let to an extreme onset of anorexia. If anorexia could be healed by reaching a certain age, there would only be teenage girls on MPA.

There seems to be something wrong in our brains. You wouldn't talk like that if there was something wrong with your heart... "goddamit, that aortic stenosis at age 31...I feel like I should be done with all this BS by now. But NOPE!"

 

You don't heal illnesses by just getting over them.


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#149 starvingxdancer

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Posted 14 April 2021 - 03:08 PM

hi all! i've had this account for a few years but never posted anything. almost 31 here. i read thru all these comments and i gotta say... i'm really glad i'm not alone here. sending love to u all


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#150 HaoHao

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Posted 14 April 2021 - 03:51 PM

... why would you be done with a mental illness after a certain age?

 

Recently I saw a woman on instagram, skinny to the bones a few months after giving birth. Apparently the postpartum phase let to an extreme onset of anorexia. If anorexia could be healed by reaching a certain age, there would only be teenage girls on MPA.

There seems to be something wrong in our brains. You wouldn't talk like that if there was something wrong with your heart... "goddamit, that aortic stenosis at age 31...I feel like I should be done with all this BS by now. But NOPE!"

 

You don't heal illnesses by just getting over them.

 

Society tells us that EDs are: only AN, only for white teen girls, only for the middle classes and above. Society also tells us that everything we liked and were as a teen we must "grow out of" as an adult. So we normalise in our heads these messages as: I'm too old to be like this. 

 

I honestly think there's a lot more 30+ people dealing with EDs than we think but millennials are so looked down upon as being a "soft" generation that we can't express ourselves without thinking someone is gonna call us snowflakes, weak, lazy, trying to pin everything on mental illness, etc. Also I really believe BED is normalised to the point where it's not seen as an ED by many people, I've seen a lot of 30+ people that are in self denial about their BED.

 

I've been like this for over 20 years. I loved the 90s but it was mad time for diet culture (everyone knows someone that did Atkins for example) or a time when mental illness was taken as seriously. EDNOS was still a new concept back then. I had no access to ED services, I had no parents that understood ED other than ED = AN which I didn't have. So of course it's still going to be a part of me in my 30s. 


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Posted 14 April 2021 - 04:48 PM

Oh hello! I’m about to be 33 and also feel like I should have my shit together by now, but instead recently moved back in with the mom because my depression is completely out of control and dangerous. I need the support and someone to keep an eye on me tbh.

However she is doing a pretty hardcore keto-type diet and I think that probably triggered my relapse after years of no ED behaviors. I also accidentally lost some weight last year due to a medication and got a taste of being at a lower weight (I gained most of it back when I was temporarily off the med) so now I’m desperate to get back to a more “normal” weight.

I’m glad to see more “older” (lol) folks here bc it often does feel like it’s all teenagers with EDs. There’s not a lot of viability for grown ass adults still struggling.

how do we forgive ourselves for all the things we did not become? 


#152 EllaMay

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Posted Yesterday, 08:04 AM

I’m pretty sure my relapses are due to a desire of wanting to be in my twenties again, it’s less to do with weight loss and more to do w age
I don’t feel old but sometimes holt crap I feel behind
My colleague is 33 and about to have her third child. I’m 34 and moved back in w my mum
I don’t want kids or a marriage but still, ouch


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#153 pelican

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Posted Yesterday, 12:06 PM

I’m pretty sure my relapses are due to a desire of wanting to be in my twenties again, it’s less to do with weight loss and more to do w age
I don’t feel old but sometimes holt crap I feel behind
My colleague is 33 and about to have her third child. I’m 34 and moved back in w my mum
I don’t want kids or a marriage but still, ouch


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Jeez, I’m having this too - all my friends are getting married, buying houses, making babies, and I also just moved back in with my mom in part because of how bad my depression is. Just can’t get my shit together.

how do we forgive ourselves for all the things we did not become? 


#154 lovebunnyx

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Posted Yesterday, 12:42 PM

I’m 30 & I’ve been having an eating disorder since I was 5. The constant battle that goes through your head is not a pretty thing. I lost 25 .lbs this year so I’m happy for that - planning to lose more. 


                               

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