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#1 softpink

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Posted 03 January 2021 - 08:44 AM

I had no idea what to title this, but here's the context:

 

  • I have to attend a two week orientation program in which morning tea and lunch are provided. Morning tea will probably be muffins, which I can probably just... not do, but it'll definitely raise eyebrows if I turn down lunch too. 
  • Lunch will likely be wraps and sandwiches.
  • It's at the hospital I'll be working at and I'll be meeting all the other interns, who will probably judge me if I don't eat the same provided lunch as them.
  • The education support officer said to email them with dietary requirements but it's not like I can say I'm deathly afraid of all carbs?

I mean, maybe my body won't balloon because I have to go into IP for a week before so my body will already be used to a little more food, but this is absolutely doing my head in.

 

I've already resigned myself to the fact that everyone is going to find out I'm weird with food. Maybe I'll just eat half a sandwich and then try to purge it somehow so that I can concentrate on the orientation instead of writhing with anxiety.

 

Any tips on how to get around this or cope with the situation?

 

Thanks in advance, and I hope you're all having an okay new year.


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Posted 03 January 2021 - 08:49 AM

If its work related, and you mention that it is in a sense, you dont want to be seen as the nurse who refuses to eat, it doesnt look or sound professional in the adult world.

They mentioned dietary requirements, ask for a vegan wrap, a wrap has less "bread" than a sandwich baguette, and if its vegan its just veggies.

This is one option.
The other option is not to eat anything, and have all of them being suspicious on you.

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Posted 03 January 2021 - 08:51 AM

You could say you're gluten free. That takes away most bread options. Then maybe you can just have a salad or tell them you'll bring your own food.
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Posted 03 January 2021 - 08:55 AM

Just eat the filling! There’s bound to be a wrap with lower cal fillings.


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Posted 03 January 2021 - 08:58 AM

In the past I've emailed in advance and just asked under the guise of like food sensitivities/temporary diet from doctor if there would be a grain-free/dairy-free/vegan/etc. option or adjustment I could make myself. People have usually be chill about telling me what their plan is.

 

Could bring like an egg white wrap with you to switch out if they have other bread. Or, as said before, just eat the insides of the sandwich. I would recommend setting up your plate and getting rid of the bun or whatever before you sit down at any table, and then just start making conversation about something else.

 

Keep in mind too, many times in these situations the meals are kind of ended short or there's someone talking while you're eating, so the focus will quickly be directed away from you and the food, I hope! I'm not a healthcare worker, so please note I defer to others in your field about the ethical/necessary boundaries of how you handle in that way....a few days of higher intake is worth your career, it's not forever either. I hope there's a middle ground solution though. 


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Posted 03 January 2021 - 09:03 AM

for dietary you could either say you’re gluten-free or you want a vegetarian wrap. i promise you that it won’t make you gain weight if you eat just one <3
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Posted 03 January 2021 - 09:04 AM

a few days of higher intake is worth your career, it's not forever either. I hope there's a middle ground solution though.


Yes, this, is what im also saying above as well.

She doesnt want to draw attention or suspision on her by "only eating a salad etc" because this singles her out from the rest of the group. In 1-2 years OP might be recover from her ED, but she wont be able to recover any bad impressions or unproffesional impressions of her to the people of her field. This is not a school trip, this is medical work.

Thats why i havent suggested things that single her out: if other people eat wraps & sandwiches, then vegan wrap is the less dense choice
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Posted 03 January 2021 - 09:04 AM

for dietary you could either say you’re gluten-free or you want a vegetarian wrap. i promise you that it won’t make you gain weight if you eat just one <3


but please enjoy yourself there! food is fuel. i know we are mentally ill here and that won’t help but i just wanted to get that out
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Posted 03 January 2021 - 09:13 AM

Thank you all so much, these are all really great points and super helpful ideas! I appreciate your perspectives greatly  :wub: 

 

If its work related, and you mention that it is in a sense, you dont want to be seen as the nurse who refuses to eat, it doesnt look or sound professional in the adult world.

They mentioned dietary requirements, ask for a vegan wrap, a wrap has less "bread" than a sandwich baguette, and if its vegan its just veggies.

This is one option.
The other option is not to eat anything, and have all of them being suspicious on you.

All the best xx

 

You're absolutely right. I think a vegan option will be easier on the mind, as well as reminders of the longer term payoff.

 

I do want to get better eventually! So surely now is a good time to at least attempt to be like the others.

 

Thank you for your kindness, thought and help, I appreciate it so much.

 

You could say you're gluten free. That takes away most bread options. Then maybe you can just have a salad or tell them you'll bring your own food.

That's true! I've definitely seen people taking their own food to these things and I'm fairly certain at least some of those people didn't have EDs.  Telling people I'm gluten sensitive might help with the morning tea grain items!

 

I really

 

Just eat the filling! There’s bound to be a wrap with lower cal fillings.


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Love you lots, thank you for reminding me this is still an option. It's definitely better than not taking anything at all!

 

In the past I've emailed in advance and just asked under the guise of like food sensitivities/temporary diet from doctor if there would be a grain-free/dairy-free/vegan/etc. option or adjustment I could make myself. People have usually be chill about telling me what their plan is.

 

Could bring like an egg white wrap with you to switch out if they have other bread. Or, as said before, just eat the insides of the sandwich. I would recommend setting up your plate and getting rid of the bun or whatever before you sit down at any table, and then just start making conversation about something else.

 

Keep in mind too, many times in these situations the meals are kind of ended short or there's someone talking while you're eating, so the focus will quickly be directed away from you and the food, I hope! I'm not a healthcare worker, so please note I defer to others in your field about the ethical/necessary boundaries of how you handle in that way....a few days of higher intake is worth your career, it's not forever either. I hope there's a middle ground solution though. 

That's a really good idea! I will bring a couple of contingency items if it all gets too stressful.

 

But overall, I'll try to focus on the other parts of the day and making new friends. 

 

I guess in reality I don't want to have an ED forever, so now is as good a time as any to try  coping with being normal!

 

for dietary you could either say you’re gluten-free or you want a vegetarian wrap. i promise you that it won’t make you gain weight if you eat just one <3

You're so lovely, thank you for the reassurance. Please take care, too. The world needs kind souls like you!


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Posted 03 January 2021 - 10:02 AM

They most likely will have some salads or veggies with the sandwhich. It’s rare when they don’t have something else. But I would tell them you don’t eat gluten. Also, there might be fruit in the morning you can eat some of.


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Posted 03 January 2021 - 10:19 AM

Gluten free Vegan is usually a safer bet.  Vegetarian means veggies mixed with mayo and cheese in my experience....

 

I've never had issue with bringing my own "safe" foods and telling people I'm a picky eater.  I'm pretty old and honestly only ever had one person in my many jobs ever actually care about what I'm eating at a work thing. 


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Posted 03 January 2021 - 07:15 PM

I'm vegetarian, gluten intolerant and allergic to dairy. Usually if I tell people that, they realize they don't have an option for me and tell me to bring my own. That could work for you, little white lie, but you can bring something you are comfortable with, and still be eating


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Posted 04 January 2021 - 09:51 AM

Thank you so much for your kind replies!

 

They most likely will have some salads or veggies with the sandwhich. It’s rare when they don’t have something else. But I would tell them you don’t eat gluten. Also, there might be fruit in the morning you can eat some of.


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You're right about the fruit! It's a bit ridiculous but sometimes my ED kicks up a fuss about fruit so it's helpful to hear you say it's a good option. Thank you for your help!

 

Gluten free Vegan is usually a safer bet.  Vegetarian means veggies mixed with mayo and cheese in my experience....

 

I've never had issue with bringing my own "safe" foods and telling people I'm a picky eater.  I'm pretty old and honestly only ever had one person in my many jobs ever actually care about what I'm eating at a work thing. 

So true. Vegan is far safer.

 

You do raise a good point about simply bringing my own food. Eventually these people are going to see what I eat on the daily so why not get started two weeks early?

 

I'm vegetarian, gluten intolerant and allergic to dairy. Usually if I tell people that, they realize they don't have an option for me and tell me to bring my own. That could work for you, little white lie, but you can bring something you are comfortable with, and still be eating

 

Thank you for your help. I reckon this will be a good plan! I hope people are kind and helpful with your needs!


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Height: 5'2" (157cm)

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SW: 121 lbs (55kg) BMI 22.7

 

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Posted 04 January 2021 - 09:57 AM

Also! I’ll post pictures of the sandwiches I eat in IP as preparation as well as updates on how orientation unfolds.

Over the next few years I hope to slowly find my identity as a doctor and bit by bit, leave my ED behind.

After all, food is just fuel but it’s also a way to connect with people and my body is just a vessel but it’s also going to help me do cool things!

So here’s to sandwiches and great people like you guys!

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Posted 04 January 2021 - 10:14 AM

I work in construction crews and never eat anything on our morning and noon breaks. Just drinks monsters.

You're an adult. You can do whatever you want. I like to eat at night, I like to eat in my own home. It's just how I am and people get used to it.

I have more important reasons than that technically but frankly those reasons make sense to people. Plus I now have a boyfriend who is in the same trade, and likes to call my eating habits "grazing". So I'm sure if anyone we both know bring up me not eating during the day, he'll probably tell them that it's because I wake up at 3am and eat ice cream.(halotop) lmao


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Posted 11 January 2021 - 08:19 PM

I work in construction crews and never eat anything on our morning and noon breaks. Just drinks monsters.

You're an adult. You can do whatever you want. I like to eat at night, I like to eat in my own home. It's just how I am and people get used to it.

I have more important reasons than that technically but frankly those reasons make sense to people. Plus I now have a boyfriend who is in the same trade, and likes to call my eating habits "grazing". So I'm sure if anyone we both know bring up me not eating during the day, he'll probably tell them that it's because I wake up at 3am and eat ice cream.(halotop) lmao


You’re right. In the end, their judgment is theirs and I have my own life to live.

How good are Monsters though! We have the green and white ones here, the orange ones are a bit rarer.

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Posted 11 January 2021 - 08:19 PM

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First sandwich in IP!
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SW: 121 lbs (55kg) BMI 22.7

 

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Posted 11 January 2021 - 08:33 PM

The best excuse is to say you are really fussy. I really am. I won’t eat most foods - I eat like an autistic toddler and I have always done so.
I say I have Arfid (which I do) which is a restrictive eating disorder without the emotional baggage.
It means I get away with saying I won’t eat white bread, mayonnaise, butter, most fruits and vegetables, red meat, anything too chewy, slimy, crumbly, sour, sweet, ... or anything that looks a funny shape, size, colour etc.

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Posted 11 January 2021 - 08:37 PM

See if they can do a keto or paleo option!


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Posted 12 January 2021 - 09:03 AM

I have coeliac disease and am vegan. Ask if they have a gluten free vegan option? 9/10 it’ll be a salad or soup.

Then the other thing that I do in these sorts of situations is use lunch as a networking opportunity. Xx chat to people a lot, move around the tables. Be the perfect bubbly professional who is just soooo interested in talking about the field that no one notices how little they eat
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