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[TheBigRedMachine<3]

I will be 40 in 5 years and while I do not think it is OLD, I am really struggling with it.   I seriously don't want to offend anyone that may be in their 40s or older reading this.  But hey, if you are give me some advice!

 

I have always been content with what I have and aside from wanting to be thinner, I have never really been jealous of people.   But lately I find myself comparing myself to others.  Things like:

 

- Why is this person who is ten years younger than me more articulate and mature?

- I wish I had a house and kids (my husband and I are working on these goals but I wish we had them like 5 years ago)

- Should I get botox because I am hating these wrinkles that keep popping up.

- WHY THE FUCK do I still battle ED????

 

 

 

I don't know.  Share your thoughts!

[WinterFairie]

I have the 40 fear too...but I also don't think it is old! I'm 3 years out...but I think part of it is where have the years gone?! How have I had an ED for well over half my life?!

 

I think it's hard not comparing myself to others...in terms of looks...and why can't I have self-confidence...etc...but I genuinely like who I am, think I'm a good person, and recognize my strengths and short comings...

 

 

Sorry, there is absolutely no insight here, just a *nod* in agreement with the uncertainty of 40. I also remember my parents giving passing an "over the hill" mug to each other as a joke when they each turned 40, and I'm like, how am I now almost that age. My husband turns 40 this year, and he isn't looking forward to it, not because it is old, but because it feels like yesterday he was 25 kind of thing.

 

Maybe it is just feeling like in terms of societies pressures, I should have done more by now? But bar the ED, I'm pretty content, all things considered.

[Greyish]

I haven't gotten over turning 30. I am 33 now.

It's insane.

[pinkyfrilly]

YES

I have to mentally prepare myself for my birthday all year long (bday in dec) "this year I will be ___, this year I will be ___" and still it bothers me lol. ever since I was like 28 I would do this so 30 wouldn't hit me so hard.

 

I think it's my job that stresses me out the most. for me to be successful I need to look attractive, and if they knew how old I was I would def be out of a job lmao. and also it's not a REAL real job so I feel dumb about it. but I juggle too many things and I'd have to start nursing school all over again. maybe I can get my shit together this year. it's hard with 3 kids :/

[Erieya]

Yes and no. I'm not afraid of getting old... I'm afraid of health problems. I'm afraid of what my life will look like when my kids are adults. (Because my relationship with my own mom is so awful.) So it's more what comes with aging.

[pinkyfrilly]

OH MY GOD AHAHA

I had to come back here and post this. I spent so much time psyching myself up for how old I'm going to turn that I actually overestimated by an entire year somehow. I spent a good 6 months or so thinking last december I turned 36. turns out I just turned 35.

 

still old but damn I just gained a year lmfaoooo

[Gal1246]

I turn 37 in a few days and I can't shake the feeling that I am going to be 40 so soon! It is really hitting me hard.  I really thought adulting was going to be so much easier than this lol

[Quietus]

Yes. Even now, it's as if I never matured out of adolescence, in regards to progress in life.

 

The restless, agonizing realization that I am 33 and have wasted my life, and have accomplished nothing at all. 

 

It all feels too late, as though I have expired and waited too long to seriously pursue anything of value. 

 

I can't even imagine myself nearing 40. Hopefully the world will have ended by then. 

[afellowghost]

I just turned 30 so I don't have The Fear but tbh, every older person I know has told me that 30-49 were the best decades of their lives. As for the jealousy thing I'll meet really young people who are articulate and just kind of brush it off as they went to college/had a great education and I didn't. There's perfect clarity there. No need to feel bad about it.

[TheBigRedMachine<3]

OH MY GOD AHAHA

I had to come back here and post this. I spent so much time psyching myself up for how old I'm going to turn that I actually overestimated by an entire year somehow. I spent a good 6 months or so thinking last december I turned 36. turns out I just turned 35.

 

still old but damn I just gained a year lmfaoooo

LOL!  I lose track all the time how old I am.  Fortunately I was born in 85, so ending in a 5 year helps me figure it out. 

[TheBigRedMachine<3]

Yes. Even now, it's as if I never matured out of adolescence, in regards to progress in life.

 

The restless, agonizing realization that I am 33 and have wasted my life, and have accomplished nothing at all. 

 

It all feels too late, as though I have expired and waited too long to seriously pursue anything of value. 

 

I can't even imagine myself nearing 40. Hopefully the world will have ended by then. 

"Never matured out of adolescence", that is exactly how I feel.

[MPAJes123!]

I love being in my 40's but, I look younger because I really tried to take care of my skin! 40 isn't that bad... don't worry... it's just a number!