So, my lovely partner, the light of my life, is a terribly, terribly picky eater. There are so many foods that he doesn't like, that I've started keeping a list so that I can plan our meals/where to order takeout better because otherwise I'm sure I'd forget some foods he doesn't like. And they're all pretty much texture issues, for example:
"I hate mac and cheese, the noodles are nashy (sp?) in my mouth."
Actually, he describes a lot of foods as "nashy", and I'm not entirely sure what it means, but it makes sense to him.
We're both vegetarian, and he's lactose intolerant, though he still eats cheese on a regular (almost daily) basis. His limited diet is super carb heavy- I've joked that he's picky about all the "wrong" foods, that is, he eschews so many healthy foods, but flocks to processed things like cereal, pop tarts, eggo waffles, etc. he loves pizza, french toast, and breakfast foods. On one hand he says he's "proudly picky", but then he also seems embarrassed about his pickiness when we're around other people or if I mention it.
He's juuuust over the edge of being a normal weight, and isn't afraid of gaining- to the contrary, at the beginning of January he wanted to gain 15 lbs and lift weights to build muscle, but after about 2 days he found counting calories to be too much work and stopped. I'm worried he's anemic (iron and/or B12), which I know is rarer in guys but he doesn't eat many veggies and especially lately he's been complaining of feeling cold all the time, even when he's laying in bed wearing a long sleeve shirt and covered with a fuzzy blanket AND a weighted blanket.
What do y'all think? Does it sound like he has ARFID? How can I help him?