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#1 Fragglerock

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Posted 24 March 2021 - 06:01 PM

Hello all, I am so relieved that I am not alone in having an eating disorder and being over 40!! I always hear EDs as being prominent in 'younger' people. I am 45 and currently relapsing into strict calorie restriction once again

#2 Elieanora

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Posted 24 March 2021 - 06:04 PM

Welcome! :) Yes it's really nice to not feel alone in this, especially since it's really hard for people without EDs to understand our struggles


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                                                   HW : 65kg (143 lbs)

                                                   LW : 53kg (117 lbs)

                                                   CW : 58.5 kg (128 lbs)

                                                  cbmi : 20.3    gbmi : 17   

 

GW1: 58 kg (128lbs)   GW2: 55 kg (121 lbs)   GW3: 53 kg (117 lbs)   UGW : 50kg (110 lbs) 

 


#3 over40

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Posted 24 March 2021 - 06:09 PM

Welcome unfortunately to the clan 😝
I felt so relieved when I found them myself a few weeks ago !
Sorry to hear about your relapse. I’m struggling but I think I’m relapsing too. Not strictly but very conscientiously yes, I am aware my ED has never left me and won’t so now it’s time to get on top of it. Being on this forum and also with the over 40s helps. Because I feel I’m not alone and even understood or unjudged if that makes sense. Yes eating or not eating or whatever I’m eating or not rules my world but so what it happens to some of us and I feel alors normal here 🥰

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Posted 24 March 2021 - 06:39 PM

I'm 42 so I get all of this!

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#5 thinstrument

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Posted 26 March 2021 - 05:09 PM

My odometer flips a decade this year ugh

I mean welcome 😂
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#6 FatGrandma

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Posted 26 March 2021 - 09:29 PM

Welcome!



#7 Hannah6991

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Posted 28 March 2021 - 04:54 AM

Hi - nice to not feel so alone and freaky over 40 with ED.
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Posted 28 March 2021 - 11:33 AM

Welcome!

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#9 ZeroCal79

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Posted 01 April 2021 - 04:01 PM

I found this place a few years back, but I was posting in the 30's page...now I'm in the 40s.  I am so happy to have found this place also because nobody in my circle can relate to what I go through in my head with all these crushing thoughts.  They just say, "girl, you look great!" and think that's going to help, but it doesn't so I just don't say anything.  I'm just glad I can always come back to this place regardless of the age I am and not feel alone.


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Height : 5'6"

HW: 242

LW: 147

Start W: 199.1 (3/31/21)                                                  MFP: LCarapia79

CW: 189.2 (WTF) :(                                                             Fitbit: Lynda R.

UGW: 130

 

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199 - 198 - 197 - 196 - 195 - 194 - 193 - 192 - 191 - 190     1st GW: 189 lbs (by end of April)  Crushed it

189 - 188 - 187 - 186 - 185 - 184 - 183 - 182 - 181 - 180    2st GW: 179 lbs (by end of May)

179 - 178 - 177 - 176 - 175 - 174 - 173 - 172 - 171 - 170     3rd GW: 169 lbs (by end of June)

169 - 168 - 167 - 166 - 165 - 164 - 163 - 160 - 161 - 160     4th GW: 159 lbs (by end of July)

159 - 158 - 157 - 156 - 155 - 154 - 153 - 152 - 151 - 150     5th GW: 149 lbs (by end of August)

149 - 148 - 147 - 146 - 145 - 144 - 143 - 142 - 141 - 140     6th GW: 145 lbs (by mid- September)

139 - 138 - 137 - 136 - 135 - 134 - 133 - 132 - 131 - 130     7th GW: 139 lbs (by end of September) 

129 ...............................................................                      8th UGW: 129 lbs (by end of October)                                       

 

ZeroCal79's Accountability Thread

Start: 4/1/21 CW: 199.1 lbs

 

 

 

 
 
 
 
 

 


#10 Fragglerock

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Posted 01 April 2021 - 07:42 PM

Yes I like people able to openly 5alk about EDs without the judgement
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#11 Seethrumethin

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Posted 01 April 2021 - 10:30 PM

Welcome!

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Posted 06 April 2021 - 02:12 PM

Hi! Yes, I’m so glad...but when you think about it, our age folks have been little parts of this type of community a long time. I’m glad there’s a place to come and talk without judging 


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Posted 07 April 2021 - 09:26 PM

44! And being here is pretty much like finding out the teachers lounge was really the place to be all along .
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HW:280lbs
CW: 159lbs
GW1: 159lbs
GW2: 147lbs
UGW: 130lbs

No *Binge*March ❉ 1 . ❉ 2 . ❉ 3 . ❉ 4 . ❉ 5 . ❉ 6 .❉ 7 . ❉ 8 .❉ 9 . ❉ 10 ❉ 11 . ❉ 12 . ❉ 13 . ❉14 . ❉ 15 . ❉ 16 . X 17 . X 18 . ❉ 19 . ❉ 20 . X 21 X 22 . ❉ 23 . ❉ 24 . ❉ 25 . ❉ 26 . ❉ 27 . ❉ 28 .❉ 29. ❉ 30. ❉ 31. = No Binge, good planned day X = BINGE

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Posted 07 April 2021 - 09:56 PM

LOL ^facts

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#15 Fragglerock

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Posted 07 April 2021 - 11:57 PM

Lol yes!!

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Posted 10 April 2021 - 06:56 PM

Hi there! I’m 52 and just started back to heavy restriction a couple weeks ago. Shockingly I’m dropping weight pretty darn fast! I’m surprised cu I know my body has changed after menopause. I eat OMAD and I’ve gotten rid of sugars (except fruit) and carbs (except carrots). Glad to see a new person join us! 


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HW: 140
LW: 102
SW: 140
CW: 107
GW1: 110 met
GW2: 105
GW: 100
UGW: 95
 


#17 Fragglerock

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Posted 11 April 2021 - 12:20 AM

Thank you x

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Posted 11 April 2021 - 05:26 PM

Hi! 43 here. I've been on and off this site for years. I get "better", leave, but I'm always back. I keep telling myself I'm too old for this shit (the ED and self harm), but...here I am.
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Cut my life into pieces
I've reached my last resort
Suffocation
No breathing
Don't give a fuck if I cut my arm, bleeding
Do you even care if I die bleeding?
Would it be wrong?
Would it be right?
If I took my life tonight
Chances are that I might
Mutilation outta sight
And I'm contemplating suicide
'Cause I'm losing my sight
Losing my mind
Wish somebody would tell me I'm fine
~Papa Roach

#19 Fragglerock

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Posted 11 April 2021 - 06:39 PM

I know, it seems so much more acceptable to have an ED when you're younger. It's like at our age people think we should know better or something
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Posted 14 April 2021 - 07:46 AM

I am guessing a lot of older people have ED’s or disordered eating but since it seems everyone our age is dieting and talking about weight it kinda gets mixed up in that.  I personally wonder exactly where the point is that I slip from “just” dieting/exercising to something else other than one day I feel I crossed the line.  I don’t purge anymore (well, I easily throw up if I drink).  When I was younger it really was a control thing more than a weight thing.  Something I reverted to in times of stress (which is constant when you are young).  I did things that were really bad for body.  I feel pretty functional and healthy now (maybe delusional?).  I am at a point where I look good with clothes on but those who know me and my history have expressed concern.  A neighbor who I regularly see but don’t know told me I needed to eat more...rude!  However, when  I am lying about my weight it’s a signal there is an issue.  Sorry for my rambling on your post.  For as open as I am about my struggles (and I will tell anyone about my long history), when I am in the midst of it I feel very alone and will deny with every breath there is an issue.  They’ll say just stop or will be even more hyper-aware of everything I am doing which will make things a million times worse because right now I am not going to stop.  Maybe some of you can relate? 


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