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on which bmi my thighs will be social-distancing?

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#21 s.yahari



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Posted 12 April 2021 - 12:06 PM

I wanna know the same thing. mine were just exchanging greetings at bmi 20 but I've never been below so idk. probably 18-19 for me though, and maybe most ppl.

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 12:16 PM

I usually have one even when I’m at a higher BMI 18-19 but it’s like prominent at 17.

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 12:23 PM

I am also pear shaped to the fuckin max (currently BMI 23ish with massive hips of 40" and a waist of 26.5" and NOT A TIT in sight) I had a beginning of a thigh gap around bmi 17 to 16.5.

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 12:36 PM

This will be very individual, and depend on muscle mass, as well as the literal distance of your leg bones from each other to start with, aside from the shape of your muscles there, and fat distribution - which BTW, can change over time, and be easier to achieve at some points in your life vs. others, at the exact same weight. It will also depend on the types of foods you eat, the exercises you do. No two people will be exactly alike. It also depends on just how much "social distancing" you're talking about.


Honestly, this thigh gap thing is a dumb trend, that I think has long since played itself out. And, it's super sexist. No guy is going around like, "Oh, I need to get rid of my thigh muscle, so girls can see my dick easier. Omfg I am so fat, girls will hate me because they can't see the other side of my balls from behind my butt!" Some people have a thigh gap without even trying, at mid-range BMIs. Some will literally kill themselves trying to get it, and won't have it even at a BMI 14. It means absolutely nothing. Except bodies are different around the world. Which, yeah they are. Same with collarbones, ribs, waist, ankles... all the things people freak out about and compare, meanwhile they likely already have the thing another person is coveting.

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 12:37 PM

my hips are 36 inch, so 19ish 

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 12:51 PM

I had a thigh sliver at 18.5, but even then my knees touched. Its the boney parts that touch so I probably will never get a full thigh gap.
At least I could have one when wearing shoes.

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 12:56 PM

6 feet apart? BMI negative seven.

Honestly though, I'm short and carry weight in my stomach area and in my thighs. Even so, I have a thigh gap at like BMI 20.

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 12:59 PM

19 for me.

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 01:11 PM

Am a male, thigh gap at 19

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 01:41 PM

I started getting one around a bmi of 21. 5’2”, 117 lbs were my stats.

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 01:45 PM

bmi 22 and below, i have pretty wide hips and im a pear, too.

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 02:17 PM

I always had a thigh gap, even at my normal weight (bmi 19)

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 02:21 PM

I got a wiiiiiiiide set of hips, so I had a decent gap at like, 19.5-ish even though my thighs were still so large and my legs are straight

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 02:46 PM

so according to my numerous important researches, the buzzfeed testes i done, the questions i asked on here, the millions of questions i read on quora -is it forbidden here to give a website name, idk sorry- reddit? and other sites... i'm pear shaped and my bmi is huge <3

even at the time that my upper body was looking like a literal skeleton, i had the thunder feel the thunder lighting and the thunder thighs. my bmi back then was 18.8

so in which bmi you had your thigh gap?

I have a thigh gap at BMI 19 so I do think it’s genetic. at BMI 15 my thighs are only 2 inches smaller than BMI 19 which just constantly annoys me. I feel your pain because I look hurrendous from the hips up like every bone is visible my back looks scarey but my legs look normal and it’s now a fixation I obsess about it drives me mad!!! Legs and ass just go away!
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Posted 12 April 2021 - 03:51 PM

Got a thigh gap at BMI 17.2 and still not decent sized. I’m not short btw, almost 5’6. Just very bottom heavy.

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 04:05 PM

I get a thigh gap at about 18


it all depends on how you're built though. some people usually have one, some people never get one...I don't have super wide hips but I have knock knees and that's why I have a thigh gap lol. I feel like a lot of people with knock knees will get one, but that's just anecdotal.

yep. my knock knees are pretty mild (4-ish inches between my ankles) and i've had a thigh gap for as long as i've had funky knees. still get chub rub on the upper thighs though  :angry:  

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 04:06 PM

I was 17.2 at some point, but I was nowhere close to a thigh gap. I still had enormous thighs.

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 04:08 PM

I have the triangle gap at bmi 25. I have large thughs and very wide pear shape.my upper body shows ribs and hipbones even while iverweight because of my ass and thighs beung so heavy

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Posted 12 April 2021 - 04:22 PM

im 5'1 and my thigh gap was most visible when i hit bmi 16



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Posted 12 April 2021 - 04:33 PM

I have a BMI of about 18.6-18.8 right now and have a very small one. My body is more rectangular so my hips don’t go out as much but my stomach goes in. Then I have shoulders like a linebacker.

Only at BMI 16 did I really get a full one but even then while wearing jeans the fat at the very top of my legs would touch. It takes until BMI 15 or 14 for that to go away.

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