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Does binging ever actually stop when you move out?

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#1 lexapro


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Posted 04 May 2021 - 10:30 PM

I know a lot of us (myself included) that still live with our parents/roommates/ect have this idea that we’ll be able to better control our binges when we move out (because we can buy our own food, avoid binge foods, ect)

For those that HAVE moved out; how true is this?? Have your binges reduced since you moved out (or even stopped entirely??) ><


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Posted 04 May 2021 - 11:26 PM


They might even get worse  :)

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Posted 04 May 2021 - 11:35 PM

They might even get worse :)

OH, well thats— disheartening </3 but thank you for the answer!! ^^
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Posted 05 May 2021 - 12:23 AM

yeah they definitely got worse for me when i moved out. especially if you don't have roommates. no one's there to hold you accountable.

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Posted 05 May 2021 - 01:37 AM

my general diet got better but the binges got worse, so it kinda leveled out
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Posted 05 May 2021 - 02:11 AM

my binging got much much worse for a few months, then infinitely easier to get under control after that - I finally lost weight for the first time in my life when I moved out

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Posted 05 May 2021 - 02:43 AM

mhm for me it actually got better since I am able to buy my own groceries. I sometimes still binge but the amount (of calories) got much better and I dont have binge eating periods anymore that go on for weeks. 

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Posted 05 May 2021 - 02:46 AM

I have binge/purge tendencies so no, my binging is worse when I am left alone.

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Posted 05 May 2021 - 03:04 AM

It really depends on the person I think. I "moved out" (lived alone) 2 times in my life (I'm 20 rn) . First time for 2 months and 2nd time it was abroad for 6months.
First time was horrible. It was my lowest depression and ED point. Well first 1-2weeks I really liked because no one could control me. I vividly remember buying shit ton of energy drinks (I just turned few days before moving out 18, and I could buy energy drinks legally here) and gum. Later it was getting worse and worse. I would go to work, go buy binge food, binge until midnight (as I said it was lowest point of my Ed and binges were horrible), then at night I would overdose lax or go ride a bike, and go back to work next morning. At that 2 month period I was very isolated, didn't meet anyone. It was out of the body experience.
Let's talk about the second time I moved out(2 years later) . Well at this point I was aware what could happen. Before going abroad I knew that two things could happen :a) I wont eat anything/won't binge OR b ) the same shit will happen like the first time. Oh dear, I was so fucking scared. Want to point out when I moved out this time, I was in a different state of mind. First 1 month was amazing, it was my longest binge free streak. But then binging came back, not AS BAD as before, mainly because I knew I had to save money while I was in a foreign country. Later tbh it went in waves, I would either binge or don't eat at all. And if anyone is reading this, I want to say what kept me from binging non stop and what I want to advice if you are in the same position - DONT ISOLATE YOURSELF. at that time I had a boyfriend and while I was with him I didn't binge, it prevented me going all in. And when I was alone I binged.
So it really depends on the state of mind you are in :) anyways, good luck!

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Posted 05 May 2021 - 03:39 AM

I agree with the others, for me it got better for a short time right as i moved out, but when i got used to it and started relaxing, it got worse, especially when i started living alone...

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Posted 07 May 2021 - 01:50 AM

Got waaay worse u_u
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Posted 07 May 2021 - 01:51 AM

Not in my experience, no. The more independence I got the more I binged. Having my own space and money just made me feel like I could binge whenever I wanted to without judgment.
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Posted 07 May 2021 - 03:33 AM

so bad that I moved back w my fam again. it's just so much harder to control myself when i'm in charge of groceries and no one is judging me. when i lived w my parents, i blamed them for my binges. but when i moved out, i realized that the problem was me.

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Posted 07 May 2021 - 01:52 PM

It depends -- on one hand, if you want it, you'll find a way to get it, no? Sometimes I have trouble keeping up restriction when I'm staying with my folks because they keep different food around than me and buy less fresh produce than I would. But as for binging...if I'm at my parents' house I'll order ubereats at 1 am or go out for a drive and pick up a pizza, then eat it before I get back. If I'm at my own place then I'll do a junk food grocery store haul. Different but similar. I think it's really all in your mindset. 


What I do find however is that sometimes changing my living environment changes my mindset. It's like pressing the "reset" button on life. You can keep things tidier (or however you like it), decorate how you want, form a new routine, and generally control life and make it more suitable to you, if that makes sense? When my life veers towards chaos (and I feel chaotic at my folks' house; it's messy, they don't buy the food I would buy, and I feel like I'm treated like a child again), I find I binge more. When my life veers towards organization and routine, which I can create for myself in my own space, I find that I don't binge much. Maybe you're the same? I think this could especially be true if you don't have a good relationship with your parents and being around them stresses you out, or if you're an introvert who prefers to live alone.


I do also want to mention that if you are coming from a period of extreme restriction, it probably doesn't matter where you are and rather what your hormones are telling you: that you're hungry and need to eat--in this case, being alone can be detrimental. After losing 30% of my body weight through heavy restriction, my bulimia went from sort-of manageable to completely out of control when I moved from a house with roommates to living alone because I could binge peacefully all day long. I also became very depressed because it was very easy to self-isolate this way. Binging can be psychological but it can also be an extremely physiological response to hunger. It might be helpful to you to identify which you're experiencing before making a leap. 

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Posted 07 May 2021 - 02:54 PM

Also for me got worse. I am living abroad currently as an exchange student and alone for the first time in my life. While the first couple of weeks I was basically binge free because I was excited and distracted then it started getting worse and I ended up in a binge-restrict circle. I am alone here so nobody knows what is going on and i kinda fast for three days straight and then  binge :/ 

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Posted 07 May 2021 - 03:25 PM

Depends. For me it got worse for a long time since I could buy whatever. Now it has kind of evened out. I usually get the binging urge in the middle of the night so I'm pretty good as long as I don't keep any binge foods in my house. They don't do deliveries at night here and I think there's only one McDonald's open during the night time. And even that isn't operating at the moment.

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Posted 07 May 2021 - 03:33 PM

At first, worseeee cuz u have control over what u wanna buy and if u like food, u may be tempted to buy it lol.
But thenn much better cuz I isolated and focused on school.
But now I’ve realized I go back and forth between going out and b/p ing to the point of complete exhaustion and restricting and isolating lmao. Depends ig

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Posted 07 May 2021 - 04:37 PM

My binging got way worse when I moved out, thats where I'm at now :(
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Posted 08 May 2021 - 02:51 AM

I still binged but I could also fast as much as I wanted so ended losing weight anyway but yh binging was still pretty bad

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Posted 10 May 2021 - 09:39 PM

my binges are pretty much nonexistant now. back story, i've had an ed since i was 16 and would regularly binge. i lived in a dorm in college and would binge a ton in the dining hall and food that my parents paid for and stuff like that. i figured that when i moved out for real, it'd be more of the same but it's the complete opposite. honestly, the biggest thing is that i pay for all my own food and i'm on a kind of strict budget. but i've also just been doing well with eating lowcal/feeling motivated in general. there are times when i can binge. like my roommate brings home a ton of extra food from work or her mom sends us candy or we decide to order pizza. but when those things happen, i dont let it turn into a full on binge. i do my best to control myself. it's going well bc i've lost quite a bit of weight since moving out!


hope this was somewhat helpful!! i'm very pleasantly surprised at how well i've avoided binging since moving out since i had such a problem with it for literal years. i guess my need to stay on a budget overrides any desire to binge.

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