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#21 skymningwolf

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Posted 07 September 2021 - 12:41 PM

I have a pretty high sex drive when I’m alone, but with other people it definitely plummets due to being insecure. My partner knows about my issues so usually having my shirt on or having sex in the dark is not a problem for him. It’s very uncomfortable sometimes as I’ll just stare at my stomach or my legs instead of looking at him. I’d say it never gets easier but I think it’s also important to have intimate time with your boyfriend/girlfriend. Telling your partner you have body/eating issues is very important imo.

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#22 km2002

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Posted 07 September 2021 - 10:19 PM

All the time!! Each relationship it has gotten progressively worse, too.
In fact, I avoid being intimate all together because it's gotten so bad. If anyone has found a way around this, I wanna know what you do so I can solve this.


tbh the more comfortable i am with them emotionally, the easier i feel it is to be intimate. like idc if i seem like a prude but it takes me a while to have sex with someone bc of my issues lol 🥸
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#23 dumbbiatchjuice

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Posted 07 September 2021 - 11:27 PM

Doesn’t seem that severe if you’re still sexually active

that's not necessarily true. 


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#24 dumbbiatchjuice

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Posted 07 September 2021 - 11:31 PM

i'm insecure about my body during sex as well. also, your eating disorder is valid and serious. 


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#25 nofunclub

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Posted 08 September 2021 - 04:03 AM

been with my partner since before this relapse and I'm bitterly aware of how I look all the time, not that I have even the slightest sex drive.
my ED slaughters any kind of possible sex drive, but thankfully my partner doesn't seem to mind??

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#26 Strawberryontop

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Posted 08 September 2021 - 04:06 AM

i hate it too..buti just givee it cause its all I'm useful for so


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Posted 08 September 2021 - 04:11 AM

Hundred Percent. Hate being on the bottom bc all i can imagine is my double chin. hate being on top for obvious reasons but also it's just always too damn cold (no central heating in my state in australia)


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#28 MidnightbutterflyUwU

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Posted 08 September 2021 - 04:21 AM

Only anal crew checking in. 😎
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#29 Elene_abc

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Posted 08 September 2021 - 04:23 AM

All day everyday! burns calories

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Just don't forget the enema this time
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Posted 08 September 2021 - 06:24 AM

Doesn’t seem that severe if you’re still sexually active


Congratulations, someone still has something in their life that hasn't been completely obliterated yet. We know what EDs are like, you don't have to rub it in to make them feel like they're not sick enough. You realise how damaging that is right?
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#31 Lilypad0

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Posted 08 September 2021 - 06:40 AM

I used to have a high sex drive when I first got with my bf, but my relapse has made me really insecure and has completely destroyed my sex drive. My bf likes to bring it up almost every single day about how "one day we might have sex again" .... like ok bro 


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#32 km2002

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Posted 08 September 2021 - 06:56 AM

Hundred Percent. Hate being on the bottom bc all i can imagine is my double chin. hate being on top for obvious reasons but also it's just always too damn cold (no central heating in my state in australia)


honestly covering myself w a blanket is all i need 🥸
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#33 km2002

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Posted 08 September 2021 - 06:56 AM

Only anal crew checking in. 😎


never tried it 👩🏻‍🦯
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#34 Mipha

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Posted 08 September 2021 - 07:25 AM

Congratulations, someone still has something in their life that hasn't been completely obliterated yet. We know what EDs are like, you don't have to rub it in to make them feel like they're not sick enough. You realise how damaging that is right?


Preach it!!

Also just want to say that not all EDs are constantly consuming all your life (you know with chronic EDs and partial recovery existing and all that). Not saying you get benefits from both worlds (I’m totally imagining eating and still being skinny.... I wish..), and I guess it’s highly variable from person to person. But you can have an ED and still some semblance of life and functioning (including sexual encounters )
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#35 km2002

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Posted 08 September 2021 - 07:29 AM

Preach it!!

Also just want to say that not all EDs are constantly consuming all your life (you know with chronic EDs and partial recovery existing and all that). Not saying you get benefits from both worlds (I’m totally imagining eating and still being skinny.... I wish..), and I guess it’s highly variable from person to person. But you can have an ED and still some semblance of life and functioning (including sexual encounters )


literally makes me feel fuzzy and warm when ppl stand up for me ;-;
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Posted 08 September 2021 - 09:35 AM

I hate having the lights on and undressing because I get cold easy and I dont like to see myself. When I'm slimmer, I get too cold if I remove my clothes and it makes it so uncomfortable for me

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#37 skeletalwaste

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Posted 08 September 2021 - 10:54 AM

I’m okay with having my shirt off, but I feel better if we’re in positions where I don’t look like a fatty if that makes sense. I’ll stare at my body a lot and use it as motivation to get skinnier.

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Posted 08 September 2021 - 11:10 AM

I've found that as long as I'm not having an abnormally bad body day, I'm not bloated, haven't binged, etc, then I'm actually pretty comfortable having sex. I do prefer to have dim lights tho


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#39 adelie

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Posted 08 September 2021 - 01:19 PM

i genuinely wonder how my fwb finds me attractive enough to want to have sex with me

 

when we're together i feel like have to pretend i'm super confident in my body as a way to overcompensate for my raging insecurities. i've never told him about my eating and self-image issues (and don't want to because i want something in my life to remain untouched and unaffected by my ed for once) so i push everything to the side. but usually i can shut out the self-hatred long enough to enjoy myself 


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Posted 08 September 2021 - 01:25 PM

Yes. When you have like dim lights, your body will look the best. And also when you move more during sex, they won't have time to look at you too much because you'll constantly be moving

 

Constant moving=Wild Sex=Best angles of your body= a lot of burned calories 


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