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#1 noten0ugh

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Posted 13 October 2021 - 12:36 PM

i want to die

my mom made me step on the scale and it turned out that i lost a kg

she hit me and told me if i don't gain 0,5 kg until the weekend she will call a hospital

then my dad came home, and he hit me multiple times. he said they'll watch me eat and i have to eat everything that they give me  

he said i don't need a psychologist i just need to eat

i can't handle this anymore i wanna die

 


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#2 imaskinnybitchyall

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Posted 13 October 2021 - 12:43 PM

Do you have anyone you can call go come get you?

If your home is not safe you could go to a domestic violence shelter to be connected with resources.
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#3 sleepyfaefae

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Posted 13 October 2021 - 12:45 PM

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Hitting isn't the answer at all. I understand, as my parents are completely ignorant on eating disorders and if they found out, they would shove food down my throat rather than sending me to the hospital. Please please please try getting out of there. They don't understand at all, so they can't help at all. Being with them will be worse for you. 


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#4 noten0ugh

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Posted 13 October 2021 - 12:46 PM

im too scared to do anything

and they took away my phone

they said they will put me in a psych ward and i have to drop out of school


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#5 noten0ugh

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Posted 13 October 2021 - 12:46 PM

and i'm only 15


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Posted 13 October 2021 - 12:54 PM

what an awful way to go about it. know that they are just worried and are probably trying to give tough love, but intentions aside, you don't deserve that. from a "normal" person's perspective, they don't understand how eating disorders work. i would suggest you seek out a psychologist yourself or find a family counselor but that's easier said than done when you live with parents and depend on them. i think your best option is to find to stay with for a bit if it's possible. 


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Posted 13 October 2021 - 01:30 PM

That’s physical abuse and you are a minor. Either call the police or call children’s services… no one and I mean NO ONE has the right to hurt anyone, but especially a child.

A violent situation is not one which aids recovery. I know it’s tough to reach out, but you need some support and professionals to help you keep yourself safe. Your parents also need to be accountable for their actions. Eating disorders are complex and a strain in the whole family but there is never an excuse to hurt a child, no matter how much stress you are under.

Keep talking to us hun and please please reach out so you can stay safe
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#8 noten0ugh

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Posted 13 October 2021 - 01:44 PM

im so scared they make me eat a ton of food

i told them that i feel shitty

they threatened to hit me again if i don't eat some disgusting high calorie shit


i want to be as beautiful as the ocean

hw: 45 kg

gw: 34 kg 

cw: 35 kg

 


#9 imaskinnybitchyall

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Posted 13 October 2021 - 01:52 PM

im too scared to do anything
and they took away my phone
they said they will put me in a psych ward and i have to drop out of school

are you in school? I would go to a teacher and say you need to borrow their phone to call a shelter. There may be resources your school can provide too. And then you'll likely need to find a way to get there. Either saving the money for a cab or asking for a ride.
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Posted 14 October 2021 - 09:02 AM

this is abuse
you deserve better
there are options available
call a shelter, an abuse hotline, or a teacher or friends parent
there are ways out of this

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#11 strugglingsoprano

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Posted 14 October 2021 - 10:07 AM

I grew up in an abusive home. I know what you're feeling. The others on this thread mean well, but they have no idea how much worse your situation could get if you try to call for help. 

 

If your parents left marks on you, take pictures. I hope you have a camera or ipod or something that can take photos since they took your phone away. Maybe a webcam on your computer? But take pictures before the marks fade. Show the pictures to a friend first and have them go with you when you tell a trusted non-family adult. 

 

Comply until you can get help. I know, it sounds like a nightmare. It's the only way for you to stay safe. You have to act like you're magically cured because they will keep up this behavior even after they see it isn't helping you. Because they don't care about helping you, they only care about themselves. So comply. Eat what they give you, or employ your best tricks to make it look like you are.

 

Unless your parents are weighing you naked (which is seriously messed up and I hope they are not), you can trick the scale with your clothing. Try to weigh after your shower so your hair is wet. Wear something bulky. Carry heavy things in your pockets or sew weights into the hem. 

 

I technically shouldn't do this, but I work with teenagers and I'm earning my social work license. I have connections. Message me if you need help finding support in your area. You are not alone. 


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#12 Dying2b3Th!n

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Posted 14 October 2021 - 10:15 AM

I grew up in an abusive home. I know what you're feeling. The others on this thread mean well, but they have no idea how much worse your situation could get if you try to call for help.

If your parents left marks on you, take pictures. I hope you have a camera or ipod or something that can take photos since they took your phone away. Maybe a webcam on your computer? But take pictures before the marks fade. Show the pictures to a friend first and have them go with you when you tell a trusted non-family adult.

Comply until you can get help. I know, it sounds like a nightmare. It's the only way for you to stay safe. You have to act like you're magically cured because they will keep up this behavior even after they see it isn't helping you. Because they don't care about helping you, they only care about themselves. So comply. Eat what they give you, or employ your best tricks to make it look like you are.

Unless your parents are weighing you naked (which is seriously messed up and I hope they are not), you can trick the scale with your clothing. Try to weigh after your shower so your hair is wet. Wear something bulky. Carry heavy things in your pockets or sew weights into the hem.

I technically shouldn't do this, but I work with teenagers and I'm earning my social work license. I have connections. Message me if you need help finding support in your area. You are not alone.


Yeah but the pics wont do any good if its the same as my case. My dad went to school with most of the police in the city i grew up in. Lucky me they always volunteered to take the calls, they saw the bruises but said he wasnt like that to respect him, hes a nice guy andthey know him. He used his charm to get out of that, child custody cases, drunk driving, drugs, and more. Also im not saying your going to be like the rest but social serbices failed me too came to the house twice, only wanted me to go to al anon and talk with him in the next room. So thats how most cases really go i know you mean well, you have connections, and want to help. But when ut comes to those things you have to handle it in the county where the child is.
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#13 strugglingsoprano

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Posted 14 October 2021 - 10:24 AM

Yeah but the pics wont do any good if its the same as my case. My dad went to school with most of the police in the city i grew up in. Lucky me they always volunteered to take the calls, they saw the bruises but said he wasnt like that to respect him, hes a nice guy andthey know him. He used his charm to get out of that, child custody cases, drunk driving, drugs, and more. Also im not saying your going to be like the rest but social serbices failed me too came to the house twice, only wanted me to go to al anon and talk with him in the next room. So thats how most cases really go i know you mean well, you have connections, and want to help. But when ut comes to those things you have to handle it in the county where the child is.

 

I am so sorry you had this experience. Police are useless. Police ignore abuse cases for the same reason Miley doesn't go to Hannah Montana concerts. 

 

Most people who go into social services do so because they care. Of course some are bad at their jobs. Nonetheless, it isn't fair to say "most" are useless. I agree that the case needs to be handled in the area, which is why I offered to help connect them "to support in your area." I do know what I am doing. 

 

Our system is jacked. No part of me denies that. And I am so, truly sorry that it failed you and others like us. That's why I'm trying to help. 


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#14 Dying2b3Th!n

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Posted 14 October 2021 - 10:35 AM

I am so sorry you had this experience. Police are useless. Police ignore abuse cases for the same reason Miley doesn't go to Hannah Montana concerts.

Most people who go into social services do so because they care. Of course some are bad at their jobs. Nonetheless, it isn't fair to say "most" are useless. I agree that the case needs to be handled in the area, which is why I offered to help connect them "to support in your area." I do know what I am doing.

Our system is jacked. No part of me denies that. And I am so, truly sorry that it failed you and others like us. That's why I'm trying to help.

Not all police are useless i was talking about the ones at the time i had to deal with. Also i never said you didnt know what you were doing.
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Posted 14 October 2021 - 11:47 AM

Go to a teacher or another trusted adult, bring a friend along with you. If you have marks where they hit you then show them. This is physical abuse and is not okay


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Posted 14 October 2021 - 07:26 PM

this is so fucking not okay, go to someone NOW x


 

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Posted 14 October 2021 - 07:30 PM

if we know which country you live in we can hook you up with resources (please don't give exact location for ur own privacy/safety just the country is enough) 


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