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Very morbid topic, TW... cremation or traditionally buried?

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#41 MonkeyJam


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Posted 26 November 2021 - 10:32 PM

omg i watched that! i was so frustrated at how it discontinued

Oh no! I only just finished season 2. Is there no more?  :o This show did remind me of that movie "warm bodies" 

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Posted 26 November 2021 - 11:36 PM

I shall be buried. I already have my plot and it even has my name on it. One of my kids died from cancer, so my husband and I bought the space next to her.

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Posted 26 November 2021 - 11:58 PM

buried. with flowers growing over where i was buried. cremation feels so... not human to me. 

it's morbid but i literally have a pinterest board for my funeral, so.

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Posted 27 November 2021 - 12:38 AM

buried . ill end up in my family's graveyard out in the middle of buttfuck nowhere .. hope i get a pretty spot

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Posted 27 November 2021 - 01:07 AM

cremated and maybe turned into jewelry for someone who really cares for me.
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Posted 27 November 2021 - 01:26 AM

Thrown in dumpster is fine.





Harvest all organs that can be used first... but I don't think they'll take any at this point. They're kinda all messed up now.  :/

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Posted 27 November 2021 - 01:37 AM

I'm donating my body to science, and want any remains to be cremated


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Posted 27 November 2021 - 04:04 AM


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Posted 27 November 2021 - 04:06 AM

Uhhhgg same

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Posted 27 November 2021 - 04:17 AM

traditional burial

i get creeped out thinking of my body being burned to ashes

like ik i wouldnt feel anything but it still freaks me out



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Posted 27 November 2021 - 04:52 AM

My answer is definitely cremation. I prefer the spirituality of being burned to ashes than becoming some rotting corpse 6ft under. Also, I don't belong in church like most people in my country and there's only so much space in graveyard...

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Posted 27 November 2021 - 05:15 AM

I really wanted my organs to be donated but considering that's very unlikely because of my overall bad health, I want my body to be donated to science. I don't care what they do to it, but if it helps to anything I'd be happy

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Posted 27 November 2021 - 05:56 AM

Cremated and put into a tree urn
Then I hope to become a tree and eventually be made into the only thing I can say i truly loved not related to my ed: a book
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Posted 27 November 2021 - 06:54 AM

I would want to donate all my organs and then just be cremated

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Posted 27 November 2021 - 11:37 AM

I shall be buried. I already have my plot and it even has my name on it. One of my kids died from cancer, so my husband and I bought the space next to her.

Sending you the biggest of hugs My heart aches for your loss… no parent should ever outlive their child
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Posted 27 November 2021 - 11:45 AM

Always liked the tree thing but first I want my organs to be donated to someone in need. Donating my body entirely to science freaks me out a little too much but they can take all the biopsies they want.

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Posted 27 November 2021 - 11:48 AM

My religion doesnt allow cremation, but I want to be buried normally, not embalmed. I know most people in the US get embalmed, but ive seen the process of it and ugh I just want to decay normally instead of that being done to me. Less of a cost for family too
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Posted 27 November 2021 - 12:08 PM

I always thought it would be really funny to be cremated and during my service have a close friend turn on the highway to hell song and several fans, spraying my ashes on the crowd. I'd never do it, but it's def a thought. Another part of me really likes the idea of my bones being displayed in museum or something, but idk how I'd work that one out.

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Posted 27 November 2021 - 09:23 PM

after all the effort I've already put into becoming a skeleton in this life, I'd be pretty mad if I was cremated

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Posted 28 November 2021 - 01:44 AM

ive always wanted a funeral pyre since i was a kid, and even though its for religious reasons i dont think my province will allow it which sucks. also: this week my dad is writing his will and i have to be the one to make sure everything is done properly which is v stressful

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