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I feel like if I don’t restrict perfectly I’ll never get married


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#1 Lofimoons

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Posted 02 December 2021 - 09:31 PM

I’m 31 and single and feel the urge to restrict perfectly so I can get to a more “beautiful” weight. I feel like if I can lose 20 more pounds I have the chance to meet a nice person and get married. I know it’s probably too late for me, but it’s my current motivaton.

#2 Barbie The Wire

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Posted 02 December 2021 - 09:50 PM

So relatable. I'm in the same boat.Back to restricting again.Especially being tall if I'm not thin enough it shows more.

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Posted 03 December 2021 - 02:31 AM

I wouldn't want someone to marry me for my looks, I'd want someone who would genuinely love me.

 

I bet you are a beautiful person inside and out, you will find the right person when it's the right time


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Posted 03 December 2021 - 03:41 AM

Yeah, I feel the same, though I'm awful with this relationship stuff in general. I'm not a good relationship material, because I'm broke and with no accomplishments in my life, also not very romantic/affectionate, so I can at least try to look better, because my face isn't ugly, it's my body... so my looks is the only thing I might be able to achieve to be more desirable.


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#5 Lofimoons

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Posted 03 December 2021 - 05:52 AM

Yeah, I feel the same, though I'm awful with this relationship stuff in general. I'm not a good relationship material, because I'm broke and with no accomplishments in my life, also not very romantic/affectionate, so I can at least try to look better, because my face isn't ugly, it's my body... so my looks is the only thing I might be able to achieve to be more desirable.


Damn you nailed my feelings entirely except I’m not even cute in the face 😂 so my only hope is to have a decent body, which I’m failing at right now. Restricting has just been super hard this month.
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#6 1caloriechip

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Posted 03 December 2021 - 07:01 PM

This motivates me so much. I’ve been with my boyfriend nearly 6 years, I’m turning 35, my dad is terminally ill, my boyfriend is not going to marry me. I live in another country for this guy and he won’t even marry me on paper for a visa. I’m probably never going to get married either and thinking about how even if I somehow pull it off my dad probably won’t even be there makes me feel like I’ve wasted so much time. I feel like at 31 you still have a good window as long as you don’t pick the wrong person. Good luck.

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#7 Lofimoons

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Posted 04 December 2021 - 07:24 PM

I wouldn't want someone to marry me for my looks, I'd want someone who would genuinely love me.

I bet you are a beautiful person inside and out, you will find the right person when it's the right time


I literally have nothing to offer and my face is worse than my body. I have 0 hope of finding a partner who will genuinely love me because there is nothing worth loving. Im realistic and know if I can work hard and improve my body then maybe someone will at least entertain me with marriage.
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Posted 06 December 2021 - 04:37 PM

same tbh



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Posted 07 December 2021 - 10:58 PM

Obviously, I don't intend to rain on your parade. Once I had the same ideas about attracting a romantic partner who would love and marry me. Even though I have reached an underweight BMI, people who do not suffer from EDs would call me skinny, dainty, ask me if everything is alright because of my weight... I am not married. Thankfully, I found a partner who loves me dearly but he loved me dearly when I weighed 10 kg more as well. The point I'm trying to make is that despite loving me and my underweight BMI he hasn't proposed yet. There is just more to love and marriage than just good looks.
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#10 Lofimoons

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Posted 08 December 2021 - 05:45 AM

Obviously, I don't intend to rain on your parade. Once I had the same ideas about attracting a romantic partner who would love and marry me. Even though I have reached an underweight BMI, people who do not suffer from EDs would call me skinny, dainty, ask me if everything is alright because of my weight... I am not married. Thankfully, I found a partner who loves me dearly but he loved me dearly when I weighed 10 kg more as well. The point I'm trying to make is that despite loving me and my underweight BMI he hasn't proposed yet. There is just more to love and marriage than just good looks.


I definitely understand where you’re coming from. I know there is much more to love and marriage than looks, but looks is a major factor for a lot of people and I have no good qualities so my looks is a tangible thing I can improve upon.
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