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#1 psychopirate

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Posted 29 February 2016 - 11:48 AM

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Sometimes people we love can make extremely triggering statements without even knowing. Yesterday I was with my boyfriend just playing around and he picks me up and carried me around. I was actually feeling a bit relieved that I wasn't such a whale. But that moment came and left when he asked me "did you lose weight?" I was mortified, I wanted to throw up my dinner right then and there. I responded "a little" he said "oh ok because you were easier to carry this time." He immediately tried to recover but the damage was done. I know he meant well and he actually meant it as a compliment, but I can't stop playing that conversation in my head. I just feel I need to lose more so I can be lighter next time.
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Posted 29 February 2016 - 11:51 AM

"You gained a bit of weight, but at least now you have curves and shape!"

My friend was trying to make me feel better about my 40lb weight gain since she saw me four years ago. I appreciated the effort but man. No I do not have shape. Blob is not the shape I want.
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#3 psychopirate

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Posted 29 February 2016 - 12:05 PM

"You gained a bit of weight, but at least now you have curves and shape!"

My friend was trying to make me feel better about my 40lb weight gain since she saw me four years ago. I appreciated the effort but man. No I do not have shape. Blob is not the shape I want.

I get this one a lot too. When I gain my boobs get huge and my friends usually say things like "at least you don't have to pay for implants." Like no please stop.

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Posted 29 February 2016 - 12:28 PM

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I once had a (tiny slim) friend say casually "people over 200pounds are gross" I was 220 at the time and wanted to die right then and there
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Posted 29 February 2016 - 12:34 PM

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I was having coffee a couple of years ago with a friend (who is also obese). I was feeling positive after losing almost 100lb and she says (looking at some slim girls in the cafe) "Wouldn't it be lovely to look like them instead of like us 2 whales. We try and try but never lose weight do we?!"
It upset me because firstly she called me a whale and secondly she didn't acknowledge the massive amount of weight I'd lost. I know she was trying to come across in a United, solidarity front but all I heard was 'whale who hasn't lost any weight'.
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#6 sophia22

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Posted 29 February 2016 - 03:49 PM

I have a (rude) male coworker who constantly refers to someone else as a "big fat pig."  She is the same size as I am, and I cringe inside whenever he says it.  


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#7 Lolacharm

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Posted 29 February 2016 - 03:54 PM

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I often find the "wow you lost weight!" comments like a double edged sword, either I will be proud and use it as motivation, or I will suddenly feel pressured by it and anxiety myself into a binge, for days. 


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Posted 29 February 2016 - 03:59 PM

I was at a party and didn't know I was 5'8'', lol. I had always been 5'6.5'' and didn't realize i'd grown. one of my friends said "Wow, you're tall enough to be a model!"


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Posted 29 February 2016 - 04:01 PM

"If only we could eat that much and stay so slim" a lady said to me at a dinner party when my friend got seconds. It's happened a few times that women have commented on the fact that 'we' can't get away with eating as much as those skinny girls I called my friends and hung around with all the time. 

But the really annoying thing is that I wasn't even that big, like UK size 10-12. That's just majorly triggering for a teenage girl.  :huh:


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Posted 29 February 2016 - 05:38 PM

"I don't want to be your scale"

My boyfriend said this to me a couple of weeks ago when I was going through the "I need to be thin again" phase. I was telling him how motivated I feel to join the gym again and that my goal is to look good by the summer and that I'll be able to wear all the cute clothes again and look good next to him (he's tall and muscular and ugh I don't know what he's still doing with me but anyway). He tried to rephrase what he said but it was too late, he apologized and rephrased again and again in order to help me understand what he truly meant but I didn't want to listen to anything. He has accidentally told me many things which were triggering in the past, but for some reason this was the worst I think. 


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Posted 29 February 2016 - 06:01 PM

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My husband and I got a bit drunk and I asked him what he thinks of me.
He replied.. All you need to do is lose 20pounds then you would be perfect.
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Posted 29 February 2016 - 06:55 PM

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My husband and I got a bit drunk and I asked him what he thinks of me.
He replied.. All you need to do is lose 20pounds then you would be perfect.

 

Ow.


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Posted 29 February 2016 - 08:34 PM

One time, a decade or more ago, my mom made a comment (mind you this was after several bouts of ED and recovery) that being heavier made me "look like there's something mentally wrong with me". 😥 I'm adopted and my birth mother actually does have something mentally wrong so that's just stuck with me all these years.

My husband sometimes makes comments about the things we did (usually sexually) when I was thin. He doesn't intend for it to be mean and it's not like he's going to seek that out but sometimes it makes me sad that I can't give that to him anymore.
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#14 Delblue

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Posted 29 February 2016 - 08:52 PM

Many people such as co-workers always tell me that I'm not fat (not that I even bring it up). I just have absolutely no muscle so I look "normal american weight" but I'm 35% fat and they don't understand that I know my body and it's not supposed to be this big. I think I'd be okay being muscular but right now I'm just fat and bones. 

 

But my biggest trigger was when my dad (after years of discouraging makeup) took me to some spa/makeup place with his new wife and when I came out at the end with makeup on he says "Now you don't look like someone's 8 year old little brother." (I was at least 20 at the time)


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Posted 29 February 2016 - 08:57 PM

My great grandmother: "Wow you've gotten FAT!"


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Posted 29 February 2016 - 10:21 PM

can't think of anything said to me that was accidental


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#17 bellekitty

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Posted 01 March 2016 - 12:58 AM

My husband and I got a bit drunk and I asked him what he thinks of me.
He replied.. All you need to do is lose 20pounds then you would be perfect.

 

Boyfriend said something similar. I know he loves me and thinks I'm beautiful but it still hurt. He said "If you did squats you'd be perfect."  Of course I took it as my butt is huge and flabby and I need to lose. Lol


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Posted 01 March 2016 - 10:04 AM

When I was 15 or so I was having a bit of a crisis about my weight (which is hilarious to me now, because then I weighed my now-UGW weight, and I was the same height I am today!) I asked my grandfather if he thought I was fat, and he said "No, you're pleasantly plump!" He said it like that was such a compliment, but what I heard was, "Yep, you're fat!"


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#19 Salmon

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Posted 01 March 2016 - 10:37 AM

I was crying to a friend because I had gained and he was like
You're not fat. The only way you would be is if you were like 200 pounds
I was well over
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Posted 01 March 2016 - 11:04 AM

You look so well.

Sorry but in my head that translates as you put on weight. Again.
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